Anyone can act that role, and I honestly think that's kind of the scary part. We've all been through our own trials, especially along the lines of a having a crappy friend. It's kind of hard, nowadays especially, to tell who's really willing to play such an essential role. Yet, it's wild knowing how easy it is for someone to work into your life for years and years and how easy it is at the same time to throw it all away. Anyone can seem like a perfect person from when you first meet them, but it takes time and patience to notice one's true colors. Not to say just about anybody you make friends with is plotting to hurt you either. It never usually starts off like that, to be honest. Sometimes things change, sometimes people change, and once you understand that, you understand how important your happiness is and how easy it is for someone to mess it up. That's when we as people start to adapt. Some start to close up and barely let anybody in and others may remain open, yet cautious. Then there comes the real.
The real friends. The ones who know you're one of a kind and see your worth, who wouldn't lose you for anything. Picking them out is honestly nearly impossible because you never truly know somebody, and that's what makes it so scary. Developing the bond over the course of years and knowing it can all be thrown away by one act, one sentence. People change, and some of those people for the better and others for the worse. People grow and sometimes you fall apart, or go your separate ways. And that's ok. That doesn't deter you from being a real friend to others. A real friend to me isn't someone who has to talk to you every day or always has to hang out with you in some shape way or form neither. They care for you, from thousands of miles away, or in the bed across from you. They want your happiness and want to see you grow with them. I have amazing friends who I don't get to see every day nor talk to just as much and yet every time I do, it's always just as good if not better than the last time I saw them, and even from a distance, they're always there for me, and have earned my love and respect. The thing is though any one of these people can turn on me at any given moment, and though it's scary, I don't fear them doing anything like that to me. Though it's happened before, I can't say I can see any of them doing anything harmful to me. Yet, I don't completely know these people and they don't completely know me, but they know enough to know that I wouldn't do anything to hurt them. Or would I? It's honestly that easy. It's up to me to make that choice to be there and care for each and every one of them, even with me being prepared to lose them. Just like it's up to you.
With the constant contrast of "They won't hurt me, I trust them." and "They could turn on me anytime.", I say cheers to the ones out there who are and are also growing to become a true companion to others, and that it won't always be easy to open up to people, especially with experience, but they're out there, maybe everywhere. Though for now, to you all, and you reading please, be kind to people and show them that you care. Work on being that real friend. Ask yourself, would you be there for your "friend" in their time of need. Change, grow, and prosper.
