Every time I go out with my friends I have at least one interaction with a guy that is beyond creepy. Lately, though it seems like these interactions are becoming more and more frequent. It really got me thinking why do these guys think acting like this is appealing to women? Who the heck raised this guy to be creepy and uncomfortable?
All of these thoughts lead me to the realization that if no one else is going to be the breaker of bad news it is going to have to be me. So here is the inside scoop on how to not be that creepy guy.
1. Don't stare at us like we're you're next meal
https://www.google.com/search?biw=1707&bih=804&
It's one thing to check a woman out but if you're staring at her like your a lion and she's a lone gazelle chances are you're not flattering her you're scaring her. If you see a woman that you like it's ok to look but either take a moment to appreciate her beauty and make a move or appreciate her beauty, don't make a move, and don't stare. It's honestly so uncomfortable to look over and see someone staring at you all night like they're a hungry animal and you're their next meal. No, we don't find it sexy or endearing it's straight up creepy.
2. No means no
No means no. If you ask a woman to dance and she says no don't keep trying to dance with her or ask. If you offer to buy a woman a drink and she says no don't keep offering other options of beverages. If a woman says she doesn't want to leave with you don't try to find her again at the end of the night and convince her otherwise. If a woman says no she isn't playing hard to get she means no. Move on and talk to other women. Chances are you and the woman will have a better time if you are both saying yes rather than you wasting your whole night chasing after a woman that has made it obvious she is not interested.
3. You are not entitled to another human being
http://www.factandmyth.com/the-middle-class/are-mi...
I am not sure why this one even needs to be explained but I see it all the time. Do not get mad and act like a woman is doing an injustice to you by not being interested. You are not entitled to anyone's consent, time, attention, or feelings. If you act like a woman should fall at your feet just because you are interested in her chances are no one is going to want to get to know you or spend time with you. People are humans not objects treat them as such.
4. Always ask for consent
This is huge. No matter how long you have known someone or what the situation is you should always be making sure you are asking for consent. Nothing is more annoying or uncomfortable than when a guy comes up to you at a bar and just starts dancing on you without asking or touches you without permission.
5. Don't hate on women if rejected
https://www.google.com/search?q=men+hating+on+women+after+being+rejected&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiv-4zg6_LbAhVpoFkKHdZ5BQUQ_AUICigB&biw=1707&bih=804&dpr=1.13#imgrc=WnBxf9jra1KZtM:
You have the right to reject the advances of someone you're not interested in so why don't the women you pursue? If the roles were reversed and the women would not take the hint you would call her clingy and crazy. Yet I see men all the time hating on women after rejection. While some can take the hint I have seen some men go from complimenting a woman to completely tearing her apart by calling her fat and ugly after a simple rejection. Honestly, you're just a jerk if you do this and it's not going to get you anywhere in the end.
6. Don't ask us to come home with you when it's literally the first sentence you've spoken to us
https://www.google.com/search?q=creepy+guys+at+bars&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwii0er46_LbAhVS11MKHV3JCfwQ_AUICigB&biw=1707&bih=804&dpr=1.13#imgrc=eOHnydCgp3Xp_M:
It's so weird when some random pyoerson comes up to you and starts acting like you're going home with them. Like we don't even know you or have talked with you at all tonight? Granted some women might feel more comfortable leaving with someone they have barely talked to always try to have at least some sort of conversation before trying to seal the deal.
Keep these tips in mind and I guarantee you won't be the talk of the next girl's night!
