I think everyone can agree that 2016 was definitely not the happiest year, and 2017 isn't looking so bright either. Everyone is struggling with something more than they've experienced and are used to in the past. But this is when we can't start to show that we are giving up; we need to all push and make it through whether it be with ourselves or together with other people.
Not a lot of people like the thought of change, or wish that they didn't go through that break up or or had to move from a place they became attached to. You also might think why did the situation come up now, or that you are not strong enough to handle it. But over the years I have found everything I've gone through to be beneficial in the future in some way or have it work out to my benefit.
I'm not telling you that you have to like change, or even that you have to believe in some weird theory about luck and destiny, but that you are not the only one that will go through it, or is going through some tough time in their life, so don't be so hard on yourself.
If someone left you in one way or another, either through a break up, divorce, or a passing of a friend, family, or pet, you deserve every right to grieve. But don't let that grieving ruin your whole life. Make it an experience of reflecting on what went wrong that you want to avoid in future relationships, or help it make you become more humble and appreciate the people that you love before they are gone. Just like you are to learn from mistakes you make in life, change is also something to learn from too.
Change is always going to be hard in the beginning- everything is hard at first if you are not used to it. But if you push through and refuse to give up, it will get easier and you will learn how to handle whatever life just threw at you.
If you went through a break up or divorce, this is where you have to pick up the pieces. Whether it was something you did or something they did you are allowed to both heal or grieve. Stay with yourself for a little while so when you reflect on what went wrong, you can learn to avoid it through being more cautious, or even just simply learning what you don't want in a relationship, which will help you to find a better one the next time around.
If you've experienced a loss, either from a person, you moved from a place you are attached to, or you are stuck in between places and feel lost because of things you are faced with, you should grieve and reflect too. But when you reflect, it should not be negative on yourself or putting blame on anyone, it should be reflection of who can I appreciate in my life before they are gone, how can I be more humble, or simply, how do I get out of this situation or make the best of it.
Life has never been promised to be easy, but the attitude you choose to have will reflect how much you will enjoy life. Enjoy the little moments, laugh once in a while, treat yourself occasionally, call someone just because you thought about them. These are the things that will help you get through change. And although change may seem like a horrible thing sometimes, it gives us wisdom and is one of the biggest ways that you can learn from life.
Change in your life will change you, and that can be a good thing. We are not meant to be the same person forever. So just remember that whatever you are going through or because someone left you in one way or another in your life, the situation does not determine the rest of your life. It is just something temporary so you can learn to live a fuller life.
