In January, I was a lost college student who was feeling alone, upset, and just not myself. I had just lost a relationship that at the time meant so much to me. I was so unsure of what I wanted in life and where I was going.
After writing my first paper feeling heartbroken, I chose to follow my advice and take time for myself until I was me again.
I loved every minute of it. I took self-care days, mental health days, and for the first time, was selfish about my time.
I had more fun than I ever did with my best friends. I lived life to the fullest and still am. I traveled more than I had ever done so before. I decided to go out more and not take things so seriously. Yes, school and grades are important, but mental health is more important. This is a concept that most college students forget to implement in their lives and it is upsetting.
I started taking care of my health and my body.
I fell into a routine of working out and eating healthier. I felt better about my body and exercising boosted my energy to the best it has ever been. I drank large amounts of water and watched my skin glow. Taking care of yourself shouldn't be a chore that you feel that you must do. Taking care of yourself should be something you have fun doing and look forward to doing. This is the only body and life you will get so why not take advantage of it and see what your body is capable of?
I chose to tell people the word no.
I learned that I always tend to stretch myself too thin so saying no helped prevent that. I asked for mental health days in my classes and workplace. When I didn't want to go out with friends, I didn't go. I stayed in and took care of myself. I didn't allow people to step all over me. I found my voice. I listened to my body when it told me to not do something. Why do we tell people we will do something when we don't want to do it? Of course, we don't want to hurt someone's feelings but if you do not want to do something, do not put yourself through that misery.
Just be honest and say no.
If you are having a rough day and cannot get into a good mood, start with the simple things and focus on every action you are doing. Wake up early and cook breakfast. Make a cup of coffee and savor every sip of it. Open your blinds and let the natural daylight in. Live for the simple things in life like feeling the sun on your skin, smiling more, learning to appreciate the small things. Hangout with friends when you are feeling down or take a night to yourself.
If you are struggling, reach out to someone. No one knows you are struggling unless you tell them.
So, to the girl not feeling like herself, take time for yourself until you are you again because I promise, you will find yourself again. You will love yourself more than ever. Most importantly, you will be happy.
