All past, present, or future sweethearts/roses/diamond girls all know the struggle of hearing the negative comments said about being a fraternity's favorite girl. When people hear "I'm a sweetheart for this fraternity" they automatically think (or sometimes say) "Oh so you're the s*** of the group," or "So the frat rat that nobody knows." This tends to happen more when I come home for breaks, which is more upsetting. Sometimes you just want to scream at these people because we all know that we didn't compete for this title just to be known as the fraternity's slam piece.
If you're like me, I chose to become a sweetheart because well it's always been easier to hang out with guys rather than girls. They're friendlier, they don't care about drama, and they'll defend you even if you're in the wrong because you're their "little sister." I'm here to break this stereotype everyone has put on being a sweetheart. So here it goes, here are five reasons on why being a sweetheart or whatever your fraternity refers to you as, isn't about you sleeping around with them.
1. We're the reason your relationship lasts.
When you get in a fight with your man that is in the fraternity we're a sweetheart for, he comes to us for advice on how he should approach the situation. Most of the time, if you're not a total b**** to us all of the time, we'll convince him to stay with you and talk it out. We're there for comfort and the truth, plus you don't have to worry about us trying to steal him because we see him as a brother.
2. The crazy over supportive mom.
If you've ever been on a sports team, there's always that one annoying mom who cheers on the team no matter what and goes a little too far with team spirit. We're that mom. Whether it's intramural games, the boys' philanthropy events, etc. Rain or shine, they can count on their sweetheart to be there for them.
Sometimes the guys need a little bit of help getting a girl, and what better way to do this but with the help of us?
4. The boys' personal agent.
People tend to talk crap when it comes to fraternities. If anyone talks bad about our boys, all hell breaks loose. Especially when it comes to the question "Who's top house?" Of course we say our boys are, but sometimes that isn't always the case. It's our job to talk about our favorite men on campus 24/7 making sure that they live up to this title. I see it as more of an agent, making sure they get what they deserve.
5. We're the little sister of the fraternity aka THE BRO.
Since us sweethearts tend to always be around, the guys see us at our worst, which is an instant turn-off when it comes to dating. We go to everything, even "bro nights." Like they come to us for advice, we go to them as well. They know all of our secrets. It's sort of an instant friend zone when becoming a fraternity's sweetheart, but hey that's okay.
