The Stressed Student's Guide To Surviving Your Mid-Semester Roommate Struggles

The Stressed Student's Guide To Surviving Your Mid-Semester Roommate Struggles

College is stressful enough without adding in the awkwardness that is living with a complete stranger.

Many people are fortunate enough to know their assigned roommate, but for those of us who were forced to live with someone they have never met, it can be a difficult transition. The first few weeks — also known as the “honeymoon phase” — wear off pretty quickly, and soon you’re left wondering why things aren’t clicking as you hoped they would.

But don’t panic. Arguments are inevitable, especially as the dust settles and you both adjust to living with each other for the first time. You may have started out as complete strangers, but you have the potential to become the best of friends!

Here are a few pointers on how to survive disagreements and differences with your roommate, so you can finish the semester with a strong friendship!

Talk to your roommate. Be open about your preferences.

Maybe you like having the room super cold, with the AC set to as low as it will go, and you only do your homework between the hours of 7 and 9 am. Maybe you binge-watch “Stranger Things” as a way to relax at night. Regardless of what your specific tastes are, make sure you relay it to your roommate! It’s much better to communicate ahead of time than get completely moved in, to realize they are your polar opposite.

Understand they have a different background than you.

It’s okay that your new roommate has a different upbringing, is from a different state, or has a different home life. College is all about trying new things and learning from people who aren’t the same. That’s the beauty of a random roommate, even though it may seem scary at first. If you are ever lacking in conversation with them, a good place to start is always their major. Chances are, they’re very passionate about their field and would love to talk about how they fell in love with it!

Respect their wishes, as long as they aren’t hurting you.

Like I said earlier, disagreements are going to happen. You won’t always “win” the argument, and that’s okay. Being roommates with someone is literally signing a contract to share your space with someone who may or may not use it the way you would have. Their decorations, music, and temperature may not be your top choice, and that’s okay. As long as their decisions aren’t harming you in any way, they are free to live however they choose, within reason. (Cleanliness of the room, however, is a different story altogether...)

If you get into a disagreement, try to keep a level head.

As much as you hate that they took one of your Easy Mac cups without asking, you have to remember that you are required to live with this person for another semester. Even if it’s difficult to, the gentler, level-headed approach is always best. More often times than not, your roommate means well. You may not see eye-to-eye in the moment, but through communication with them, larger scale arguments can be avoided.

Find common ground, something you both enjoy.

Lastly, and most importantly, find a way to connect with your roommate. For each set, the shared interest or hobby is completely different. Whether it’s the newest trends, a news topic, or a sport, connecting with your roommate in some way makes the transition much easier. It’s so much nicer to be able to find a friend in your roommate, rather than an enemy you wish you didn’t come home to. So take time to build this friendship like you would any other. Try getting to know your roommate’s likes and dislikes, because you’re more alike than you think!

Don’t worry. You can and will survive this semester, roommate struggles and all. Try to keep your head up, and don’t stress too much about it. You and your roommate will be back to being best friends before the week is out.

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50 Quotes from the Best Vines

If you're picturing the vines in your head, you're doing it right

In 2017 we had to say goodbye to one of the best websites to ever roam the internet: Vine. In case you have been living under a rock since 2013, Vine was -(sad face)- a website and app that took the internet and the app store by storm in Winter 2013. It contained 6-second videos that were mostly comedy- but there were other genres including music, sports, cool tricks and different trends. Vine stars would get together and plan out a vine and film it till they got it right.

It was owned by Twitter and it was shut down because of so many reasons; the viners were leaving and making money from Youtube, there was simply no money in it and Twitter wanted us to suffer.

There's been a ton of threads on Twitter of everyone's favorite vines so I thought I'd jump in and share some of my favorites. So without further ado, here are some quotes of vines that most vine fanatics would know.

1. "AHH...Stahhp. I coulda dropped mah croissant"

2. "Nate how are those chicken strips?" "F%#K YA CHICKEN STRIPS.....F%#K ya chicken strips!"

3. "Road work ahead? Uh Yea, I sure hope it does"

4. "Happy Crimus...." "It's crismun..." "Merry crisis" "Merry chrysler"

5. "...Hi Welcome to Chili's"

6. "HoW dO yOu kNoW wHaT's gOoD fOr mE?" "THAT'S MY OPINIONNN!!!.."

7."Welcome to Bible Study. We're all children of Jesus... Kumbaya my looordd"

8. Hi my name's Trey, I have a basketball game tomorrow. Well I'm a point guard, I got shoe game..."

9. "It's a avocadooo...thanks"

10. "Yo how much money do you have?" "69 cents" "AYE you know what that means?" "I don't have enough money for chicken nuggets"

11. "Hurricane Katrina? More like Hurricane Tortilla."

12. "Hey Tara you want some?" "This b*%th empty. YEET!"

13. "Get to Del Taco. They got a new thing called Freesha-- Free-- Freeshavaca do"

14. "Mothertrucker dude that hurt like a buttcheek on a stick"

15. "Two brooss chillin in a hot tub 5 feet apart cuz they're not gay"

16. "Jared can you read number 23 for the class?" "No I cannot.... What up I'm Jared, I'm 19 and I never f#@%in learned how to read."

17. "Not to be racist or anything but Asian people SSUUGHHH"

18. 18. "I wanna be a cowboy baby... I wanna be a cowboy baby"

19. "Hey, I'm lesbian" "I thought you were American"

20. "I spilled lipstick in your Valentino bag" "you spilled- whaghwhha- lipstick in my Valentino White bag?"

21. "What's better than this? Guys bein dudes"

22. "How'd you get these bumps? ya got eggzma?" "I got what?" "You got eggzma?"

23. "WHAT ARE THOSEEEEE?" "THEY are my crocs!"

24. "Can I get a waffle? Can I please get a waffle?"

25. "HAPPY BIRTHDAY RAVEN!" "I can't sweem"

26. "Say Coloradoo" "I'M A GIRAFFE!!"

27. "How much did you pay for that taco?" Aight yo you know this boys got his free tacoo"

28. *Birds chirping* "Tweekle Tweekle"

29. "Girl, you're thicker than a bowl of oatmeal"

30. "I brought you Frankincense" "Thank you" "I brought you Myrrh" "Thank you" "Mur-dur" ""

31. "Sleep? I don't know about's summertime" "You ain't go to bed?" "Oh she caught me"

32. "All I wanna tell you is school's not important... Be whatever you wanna be. If you wanna be a dog...RUFF. You know?"33. "Oh I like ya accent where you from?" "I'm Liberian" "Oh, my bad *whispering* I like your accent..."

34. "Next Please" "Hello" "Sir, this is a mug shot" "A mug shot? I don't even drink coffee"

35. "Hey did you happen to go to class last week?" "I have never missed a class"

36. "Go ahead and introduce yourselves" "My name is Michael with a B and I've been afraid of insects my entire-" "Stop, stop, stop. Where?" "Hmm?" "Where's the B?" "There's a bee?"

37. "There's only one thing worse than a rapist...Boom" "A child" "No"

38. "Later mom. What's up me and my boys are going to see Uncle Kracker...GIVE ME MY HAT BACK JORDAN! DO YOU WANNA SEE UNCLE KRACKER OR NO?

39. "Dad look, it's the good kush." This is the dollar store, how good can it be?"

40. "Zach stop...Zach stop...You're gonna get in trouble. Zach"

41. "CHRIS! Is that a weed? "No this is a crayon-" I'm calling the police" *puts 911 into microwave* "911 what's your emergency"

42. "WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY? "

43. *Blowing vape on table* * cameraman blows it away* "ADAM"

44. "Would you like the spider in your hand?" "Yea" "Say please" "Please" *puts spider in hand* *screams*

45. "Oh hi, thanks for checking in I'm still a piece of garrbaagge"

46. *girl blows vape* "...WoW"

47. *running* "...Daddy?" "Do I look like-?"

48. *Pours water onto girl's face" "Hello?"

49. "Wait oh yes wait a minute Mr. Postman" "HaaaAHH"

50. "...And they were roommates" "Mah God they were roommates"

I could literally go on forever because I just reference vines on a daily basis. Rest in peace Vine

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Recovery is Possible But It Doesn't Mean It's Easy

Recovery is trying to fit again.


Being in recovery can mean a lot of things to a lot of people. There is recovery for drug abuse, alcohol, eating disorders, and other illnesses and abuses.

Whether you are just starting out or are 5 years in, recovery is a lifelong commitment.

Now, I know it can seem scary to those who have no idea what recovery is or have never had to recover from something. But you will never truly understand what recovery is like unless you've lived through it. Unless you've had to overcome your own thoughts and rebuild yourself from the ground up.

For me, recovery has been a slow and demanding process. When I first got out of treatment for my eating disorder, I became extremely depressed. I was sick, tired, and didn't want to talk to anyone. I was trying to figure out my purpose and where I belonged all in the few months before I had to go back to school for my third year of college.

Life stops for no one.

I had always had to deal with anxiety and the eating disorder, but now there was this darkness over everything. I had to learn how to live my life without the one thing I had been using to get through each day. Now, I didn't have the empty stomach and controlling thoughts to occupy my time. I had to deal with what I was feeling. I had to deal with the difficult things in my life that I had ignored for so long.

The eating disorder, the obsession, had allowed me to cope with the shitty stuff going on in my life.

I'm not saying all situations are the same, but through my time at treatment, I learned that many of the people that were there because they had traumatic experiences.

Whether its drugs, alcohol or some other form of abuse or obsession- the person is trying to cope with something. It may start as a choice, but it quickly spirals into something out of the person's control.

So, try to imagine recovery. You no longer have that coping mechanism you've had for years; that you are used to having with you at all times, that people are used to you having, that has made surviving possible. Now, it's a world you know, but you are completely different.

All your parts are the same. You have the same skin that bruises in the same way. And the same handwriting that can still ink poetry. But it all gets mixed up somehow. Now, you have to find a way to fit into the world again and each day is just trying to fit.

Maybe it's going out to eat with your friends or going 3 months without a drink or even just getting out of bed.

Trying to find the normal.

Trying to find yourself again.

If you or someone you know is trying to overcome an addiction or past trauma, the strongest thing to do is to speak up and do something about it.

National Eating Disorders Helpline: (800) 931-2237

Substance Abuse Helpline: 1-800-487-4889

Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

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