A survival guide to living alone

A Survival Guide, To Living Alone For The First Time

You may think you're ready, but in reality, you are not — trust me.


Living alone is probably one of the hardest things I have had to adjust to in my college experience so far. From moving in with a roommate you may not have ever met to living in your first apartment, it is a lot harder than it looks. When I moved from Georgia to Columbia, Missouri, I was scared but also naive and excited. I had absolutely no idea what I was getting into. My dad helped me move in but once everything was unpacked he left. I was by myself without my parents for the first time and now I had to figure out how to live my life without them. I had to learn how to live with a complete stranger and deal with the fact that all of my best friends were miles away from me. Learning how to live by yourself for the first time is hard but I want to provide some tips that will hopefully ease your transition into adulthood.

The first thing is to make a list when shopping for household items. This will ensure you do not forget anything, especially weird things you probably have never thought of before, like dish soap. Making a list will make your life 10x easier than just trying to remember everything in your head. Things like, detergent and brooms, are easily forgotten because we have never had to buy these things ourselves. If you are moving into an apartment, make sure to remember your dishwasher tabs and hand soap.

My next tip to living alone, especially if you moved out of state, is to be social and make friends. Once you make friends that you have a good connection with living alone won't be as lonely. Personally, for me, I find a lot of my happiness in the people I surround myself with and being by myself for long periods of time can be difficult and can lead me to depression. Making friends in a place that is unknown to you can make an unknown place feel a little bit more like home. Having someone to go places with and have experiences with can make life more fun. Depression is a serious thing, so make sure you stay happy and not lonely all the time can ensure your mental health is good.

My last tip is to make your new space feel like home. Whether it be a dorm or a new apartment, decorating a space to your liking can alleviate stress and homesickness and make your new space a welcoming place for you when you get home from a stressful day of work or classes. Your home should be somewhere you go to relax so make it feel like a relaxing place. Life is already hard as is, especially when you are alone and away from family, making this new home of yours fit your style can make life easier to deal with.

Whether it is loneliness or homesickness, living alone is gonna bring about something that is gonna make it a struggle to deal with. Focussing on yourself and the comfort of your new home can make this transition just a tad easier.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

SEE ALSO: Finding A Husband In College

Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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A poem of frustration. Maybe you will feel something similar to what I was feeling when I wrote this.


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There is something that stirs within them

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My final declaration:

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