Why Support Is The Framework For Life

Why Support Is The Framework For Life

The support we receive serves as the foundation we need to excel.
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Take a minute and think about the construction of a house. For the house to stand, it needs a frame. For the frame to continue to stand it needs a foundation that could also be called the support. It’s this support that keeps the house in one piece in order to inhabit its occupants. So, the support is very important to the survival of the house

The same can be said about life if you think about. We, as people, thrive on the support from others, whether it is just a few words of encouragement or giving you a place to stay. Life is full of decisions that can be hard to make and it’s the support we receive from others that help us make our decision regardless of it being right or wrong. Support is kind of like a framework for life as it exists to help you build up from where you are.

Now, I know support comes in many shapes and sizes, but whether it is financial support or emotional support, they both give you somewhere to start.

Personally, I depend on the support I receive from my friends and family to remain successful. The support I receive is more on the emotional level, but that is what drives to excel at what I do and to even try new things. For example, me writing for Odyssey. Never would I have considered actually joining, but after a nice catch-up session with my best friends at the end of this past summer, they were able to convince me to go for it. They knew I did a little writing on the side and with their words of encouragement it prompted me to sign up and get out of my comfort zone. With each week that goes by, and as they read my writings, they continue to give me their support from miles away. That support is what motivates me to keep doing this.

Support from another person can also be what brings you out of a dark hole. If you are a person who lives with depression, anxiety, or anything of the like it can be the kind words of your mom, sister, brother, best friend, or even a complete stranger that helps push you to the next day.

I know I speak personally a lot on here, but I do it in hopes that it will help convince you of what I’m saying. Depression and anxiety are two diseases I live with and I have had my good and bad days with them both. Anxiety usually comes from school and can make me feel like I’m drowning, but a simple conversation with my best friends who know my poor study habits, telling me that I am smart and have the capabilities to get through this assignment or the next big test usually helps. It helps bring my head around to a really sensible thought, instead of thinking something like "if I fail this test I won’t excel in my career". Their support, to me, is the difference between drowning and excelling.

When it comes to needing financial support or even somewhere to live, don’t be ashamed. The people who offer you this support are giving you a foundation on which to build. They want to give you the support you need. That $100 loan your mom gave you? She did it so you could pay your electric bill and start fresh next month. The offer to live in your dad’s house for 6 months? He did that so you could save up to get your own house. There is nothing to be ashamed of if you need a little support.

So just like a house needs support for its foundation to continue to stand, you need support as a foundation to excel and do great things. This support will become your framework in which you can only build.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.
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Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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16 Meaningful Things You Should Tell The People You Love More Often

The best way to make sure you don't lose the people you care about is to make sure they know how much you care about them.

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One way — the best way in my opinion — to make sure you don't lose the people you care about is to make sure they know how much you care about them. Everybody needs reassurance at times. It's human nature, and nothing feels better than hearing from somebody you love that they appreciate you and love you too.

There are plenty of ways to say "I love you" without saying those three words. Think about the last time you said any of these things to the people you love.

"I see all that you do for me, and I appreciate it." 

If you love somebody, you never keep score. But you should always thank them and make sure they know that what they do for you doesn't go unnoticed.

"Tell me about your day." 

If someone is important to you, you're probably the first person they want to tell things to. Asking this simple question — and making sure to listen to the response — makes them feel closer to you and like you're a part of their life.

This one can be especially crucial for people in long-distance friendships or relationships.

"I'm proud of you." 

"I miss you." 

These three little words can change someone's entire day.

"I'm lucky to have you." 

"Do you need to talk about anything?"

Sometimes, it's hard for people to openly start talking about things that are bothering them or things that they're struggling with. If someone you love seems off, asking this question can be a good opportunity to make them feel like they can talk to you about whatever is on their mind.

"What can I do to improve our relationship?"

This is something relationship counselors preach about, and it applies to relationships of any kind. It's so important, and your relationships will only benefit from this conversation!

"Is there anything I can do to make your day better?"

"I wish you were here."

"I don't want to lose you."

"You look really good today."

This one is super easy and not as deep, but it still makes someone feel really good — especially when they aren't expecting it.

"When can I see you next?" 

This is so underrated! It feels so good to know someone is looking forward to seeing you again. We stan effort!

"You make me so happy."

"You're doing amazing."

"I hope you have a good day."

This is super easy to text or tell someone in the morning. It lets them know you're thinking about them and sets up everyone to be in a good mood for the day!

"I'm sorry I don't say these things more often."

These are all such small sentences that hold so much meaning. Believe me when I say hearing these things from the right person at the right time can change everything for somebody.

It takes seconds to say/text these things, so there really is no excuse for not doing it.

Before you think, "Well, they never say this stuff to me either," stop and think about the last time you said one of these things to someone. Sometimes, it takes you to start. Your relationship is worth more than your pride.

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