Why Support Is The Framework For Life

Why Support Is The Framework For Life

The support we receive serves as the foundation we need to excel.
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Take a minute and think about the construction of a house. For the house to stand, it needs a frame. For the frame to continue to stand it needs a foundation that could also be called the support. It’s this support that keeps the house in one piece in order to inhabit its occupants. So, the support is very important to the survival of the house

The same can be said about life if you think about. We, as people, thrive on the support from others, whether it is just a few words of encouragement or giving you a place to stay. Life is full of decisions that can be hard to make and it’s the support we receive from others that help us make our decision regardless of it being right or wrong. Support is kind of like a framework for life as it exists to help you build up from where you are.

Now, I know support comes in many shapes and sizes, but whether it is financial support or emotional support, they both give you somewhere to start.

Personally, I depend on the support I receive from my friends and family to remain successful. The support I receive is more on the emotional level, but that is what drives to excel at what I do and to even try new things. For example, me writing for Odyssey. Never would I have considered actually joining, but after a nice catch-up session with my best friends at the end of this past summer, they were able to convince me to go for it. They knew I did a little writing on the side and with their words of encouragement it prompted me to sign up and get out of my comfort zone. With each week that goes by, and as they read my writings, they continue to give me their support from miles away. That support is what motivates me to keep doing this.

Support from another person can also be what brings you out of a dark hole. If you are a person who lives with depression, anxiety, or anything of the like it can be the kind words of your mom, sister, brother, best friend, or even a complete stranger that helps push you to the next day.

I know I speak personally a lot on here, but I do it in hopes that it will help convince you of what I’m saying. Depression and anxiety are two diseases I live with and I have had my good and bad days with them both. Anxiety usually comes from school and can make me feel like I’m drowning, but a simple conversation with my best friends who know my poor study habits, telling me that I am smart and have the capabilities to get through this assignment or the next big test usually helps. It helps bring my head around to a really sensible thought, instead of thinking something like "if I fail this test I won’t excel in my career". Their support, to me, is the difference between drowning and excelling.

When it comes to needing financial support or even somewhere to live, don’t be ashamed. The people who offer you this support are giving you a foundation on which to build. They want to give you the support you need. That $100 loan your mom gave you? She did it so you could pay your electric bill and start fresh next month. The offer to live in your dad’s house for 6 months? He did that so you could save up to get your own house. There is nothing to be ashamed of if you need a little support.

So just like a house needs support for its foundation to continue to stand, you need support as a foundation to excel and do great things. This support will become your framework in which you can only build.

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The Thank You My Dad Deserves

While our moms are always the heroes, our dads deserve some credit, too.
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Dear Dad,

You’ve gone a really long time without being thanked. I'm not talking about thanks for things like opening the Gatorade bottle I couldn't or checking my tires when my car’s maintenance light is flashing, but rather the thanks I owe you for shaping me into the person I am today.

Thank you for teaching me what I deserve and for not letting me settle for anything less.

While the whole world was telling me I wasn’t good enough, you were there to tell me I was. Whether this was with boys, a friend, or anything else, you always built my confidence to a place I couldn’t build it to on my own. You showed me what my great qualities were and helped me feel unique. But most of all, you never let me settle for anything less than what I deserved, even when I wanted to. Without you, I wouldn’t be nearly as ambitious, outgoing or strong.

Thank you for giving me someone to make proud.

It’s hard to work hard when it’s just for myself, but so easy when it’s for you. All through school, nothing made me happier than getting a good grade back because I knew I got to come home and tell you. With everything I do, you give me a purpose.

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Thank you for showing me what selflessness looks like.

You are the prime example of what putting your family first looks like. If me wanting something means that you can’t get what you want, you’ll always sacrifice. From wearing the same t-shirts you’ve had since I was in elementary school so I could buy the new clothes I wanted, to not going out with your friends so you could come to my shows, you never made a decision without your family at the forefront of your mind. If there is one quality you have that I look up to you for the most, it’s your ability to completely put your needs aside and focus entirely on the wants of others.

Thank you for being the voice in the back of my head that shows me wrong from right.

Even though many of your dad-isms like “always wear a seatbelt” easily get old, whenever I’m in a situation and can’t decide if what I’m doing is right or wrong, I always can hear you in the back of my head pointing me in the right direction. While I may not boost your ego often enough by telling you you’re always right, you are.

Thank you for being real with me when nobody else will.

Being your child hasn’t always been full of happiness and encouragement, but that’s what makes you such an integral part of my life. Rather than sugarcoating things and always telling me I was the perfect child, you called me out when I was wrong. But what separates you from other dads is that instead of just knocking me down, you helped me improve. You helped me figure out my faults and stood by me every step of the way as I worked to fix them.

Most of all, thank you for showing me what a great man looks like.

I know that marriage may seem very far down the road, but I just want you to know that whoever the guy I marry is, I know he’ll be right because I have an amazing guy to compare him to. I know you’re not perfect (nobody is), but you’ve raised me in a such a way that I couldn’t imagine my kids being raised any differently. Finding a guy with your heart, drive, and generosity will be tough, but I know it will be worth it.


Dad, you’re more than just my parent, but my best friend. You’re there for me like nobody else is and I couldn’t imagine being where I am now without you.

Love you forever,

Your little girl

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You Don't Know My Relationship, So It's A Blessing For You That I Didn't Ask

A little note for all of the family members and distant friends who love to give their opinions on things they do not understand.

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It is the beginning of January, meaning we have all pretty much survived another holiday season full of the people you missed and could not wait to see. But, you've also encountered the people you see once a year and feel awkward with the whole time.

As a girl in my second half of my college years, I'm getting lots of opinions from people who barely know me.

Nothing bothers me more than when people want to tell me how to live my life, even though they have not been around to see most of my life. Topics including, but not limited to, my dating life.

I am sure we have all seen the memes and viral tweets about single people being tired of being asked when they are going to get a significant other, and while I cannot relate (but feel for you) let me tell you it is not always more fun when they have a person to ask about.

Believe it or not, I am not looking for your opinions on the boyfriend of mine that you have never met. I do not care to show you his picture so that you can see what he looks like, because he looks the same as he did in the picture I showed you last year. All the information about his major and his family is just the same as well.

So, if you do not care enough to remember the minor details, why do you think I would care to hear your opinions?

I know, I did what you are not supposed to and started dating someone right away in college. I was annoyed as a freshman when you told me not to settle down too quickly, and, over two years later (with the same boyfriend) I am just as annoyed with your new thoughts.

The truth of the matter is, he is a much bigger part of my life than you have ever tried to be, so what you think about our relationship or how long it has gone or will go, does not bother me. I never cared what you thought. What I do care about is the needless desire you have to feel authoritative in a life, my life, you have been little apart of.

You only kind of know me, and you definitely do not know him.

So, why on Earth do you feel inclined to give your advice now? Here is a hint: if I cared what you thought, I would have asked.

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