Summertime Sadness as told by college students

Summertime Sadness as told by college students

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College is supposed to be some of the best years of your life - and it is. I mean, what could possibly be better than staying up until 7 a.m. to finish a project that's due in an hour, only to get to class and find out that the professor decided that you all deserved a little more time to work on it? Or what about when you get up bright and early to make sure that you make it to your 8 a.m. on time, and when you get there and there's no one else there, you check your e-mail and find out that you could have just stayed in bed? If these aren't the absolute highlights of college, then I don't know what is. Oh, wait... I actually do know what is. Contrary to popular belief, there is more to college than just attending all of your classes and spending countless hours in the library. Being a college student offers certain experiences that you just can't get anywhere else, and these are what we really miss most over summer vacation.

First of all, there's the obvious - college parties. Of course, there will be parties at home, but none of these will ever compare to a trashy Friday night, stumbling around campus with your friends. It's only natural that we miss going out every weekend (and let's face it, even some weekdays) with the people we hold near and dear. There's just something special about waking up from a well-deserved nap, spending two hours getting ready, and going out with everyone you've ever known. You can't forget about the pregame, where you support each other's underage drinking habits more than you support each other's day-to-day study habits, and you definitely can't forget about wondering where you'll end up (or who you'll end up with) at the end of the night. Though potentially shocking, these events are an almost inevitable part of college that allows us to find who we really are. College parties can be seen as one of two things: mayhem, or our way of learning how to get ourselves out of trouble.

Next, we have the independence. Being away at school, I have my own place. It might not be perfect, but it sure is mine, and I can basically do whatever I want. If I wanna live off of Ramen noodles and Poptarts for three weeks, you can bet I'm gonna do it. If I wanna postpone doing laundry until I've worn every single article of clothing that I own at least twice, you can bet I'm gonna do that too. But it's not just about the freedom to be irresponsible when we want to. It's the opportunity for us to learn how to be independent. If we want to eat, we need to go grocery shopping. We need to learn how to cook, and clean, or live in our own (and sometimes other people's) filth. We miss just being able to get up and go without clearing it with mom and dad first, and we miss knowing that we needed to do it all for ourselves.

Finally, we have the judgment free zone. In college, people don't really judge you for things. More so, they applaud you because they understand why you're doing whatever you're doing. If you're showing up to class in pajamas, they understand, because they pulled that all-nighter too. If you're riding across campus on a Razor scooter, they're wishing you had room for one more. They understand when you take a fifteen minute nap in the hallway between classes, or when you're double-fisting coffees on your way into the library. An outsider might not always know what it's like - not everyone can understand what you're going through, or what it takes to get through it. We miss being away at college; we miss our time and place to do exactly what we have to do, when we have to do it, and not needing to justify it to anyone at all.

Even though we don't miss getting up early and going to class, we can't help but reminisce all the things that we love about college. So whether it's those roommate trips to the dining hall, or those late night walks around campus, we have so much to miss during our summer vacation. I'm not saying that we're counting down the days until we get to go back, but if you were curious, it's 52. 52 days.

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To The Girl Who Had A Plan

A letter to the girl whose life is not going according to her plan.
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“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” - William Ernest Henley

Since we were little girls we have been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We responded with astronauts, teachers, presidents, nurses, etc. Then we start growing up, and our plans change.

In middle school, our plans were molded based on our friends and whatever was cool at the time. Eventually, we went to high school and this question became serious, along with some others: “What are your plans for college?” “What are you going to major in?” “When do you think you’ll get married?” “Are you going to stay friends with your friends?” We are bombarded with these questions we are supposed to have answers to, so we start making plans.

Plans, like going to college with our best friends and getting a degree we’ve been dreaming about. Plans, to get married as soon as we can. We make plans for how to lose weight and get healthy. We make plans for our weddings and children.

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We fill our Pinterest boards with these dreams and hopes that we have, which are really great things to do, but what happens when you don’t get into that college? What happens when your best friend chooses to go somewhere else? Or, what if you don’t get the scholarship you need or the awards you thought you deserved. Maybe, the guy you thought you would marry breaks your heart. You might gain a few pounds instead of losing them. Your parents get divorced. Someone you love gets cancer. You don’t get the grades you need. You don’t make that collegiate sports team. The sorority you’re a legacy to, drops you. You didn’t get the job or internship you applied for. What happens to you when this plan doesn’t go your way?

I’ve been there.

The answer for that is “I have this hope that is an anchor for my soul.” Soon we all realize we are not the captain of our fate. We don’t have everything under control nor will we ever have control of every situation in our lives. But, there is someone who is working all things together for the good of those who love him, who has a plan and a purpose for the lives of his children. His name is Jesus. When life takes a turn you aren’t expecting, those are the times you have to cling to Him the tightest, trusting that His plan is what is best. That is easier said than done, but keep pursuing Him. I have found in my life that His plans were always better than mine, and slowly He’s revealing that to me.

The end of your plan isn’t the end of your life. There is more out there. You may not be the captain of your fate, but you can be the master of your soul. You can choose to be happy despite your circumstances. You can change directions at any point and go a different way. You can take the bad and make something beautiful out of it, if you allow God to work in your heart.

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So, make the best of that school you did get in to. Own it. Make new friends- you may find they are better than the old ones. Apply for more scholarships, or get a job. Move on from the guy that broke your heart; he does not deserve you. God has a guy lined up for you who will love you completely. Spend all the time you can with the loved one with cancer. Pray, pray hard for healing. Study more. Apply for more jobs, or try to spend your summer serving others instead. Join a different club or get involved in other organizations on campus. Find your delight first in God and then pursue other activities that make you happy; He will give you the desires of your heart.

My friend, it is going to be OK.

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I'm Not Feelin' 22, But I'll Make The Most Of It

The reality of becoming another year older and the stress that it may bring.

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Birthdays are all about being the center of attention, - birthday wishes from friends and family, and celebrating another milestone in your life. People go out of their way to buy party favors, set up parties, and buy gifts just to make someone feel special on their birthday. However, some people dread their special day because of anxiety and depression. This past weekend was my 22ndbirthday, and although I'm usually excited for my birthday, this was the birthday I had been dreading.

Birthdays are inevitable. Once you reach past the age of 21, everything seems to go downhill, or at least I think so. Once I realized I was going to be 22 last Sunday, I realized the new responsibilities and norms that come with turning this age. I am a Junior at the University of Arizona, should be a senior, and most of my friends are younger than me. With most of my friends graduating this year at the age of 22, I can't help but feel bad that I will be graduating at the age of 23. After being at a large university for three years, I have felt "behind" because of my age and academic standing. Being the oldest of my friends brings a sense of anxiety out in me and pressure that I should be graduated by now.

Another issue I have with birthdays at this age is the expectation of certain milestones that I have not accomplished yet. With social media being such a large part of our society today, seeing so many different people on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter posting pictures of what they are doing every second of the day, it's hard not to feel bad if you are not up to par with others lives. Some people are having babies, while others are going to medical school, where do I fit in?

Although birthdays bring some sense of negativity to me, I think that they should be celebrated in a positive light. My best friend, Colleen, knew I was feeling down about my birthday and wanted to help me feel better about turning the big 2-2. She bought balloons, silly string, and letter banners just to decorate our apartment to make me feel excited about the day. She bought me the most unique presents that only a best friend would know I would have wanted. At the end of the day, we went to my favorite restaurant and with the help of Colleen, my day had turned around.

While you may catch the birthday blues at some point in your lifetime, there are ways to change your attitude on the day. You may hear from someone from the past wishing you a happy birthday that can make you smile, or receive a gift from a family or friend that you had your eye on in the store and they knew you had to have it. Don't compare yourself to others when it comes to birthday plans, live the day how you would like and spend it with the people that matter most to you.

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