Submission in today's culture is taken as a punishment, not as a gift. When we hear the word, 'submission’ or 'submit’ we automatically think the worst. We think we are going to be stepped on, and belittled as women.

"Don't be a doormat. Don't settle."

But submission isn't authoritarian, we aren't under the rule of our husband. We do have the ability to speak our opinion and such. But it is more so a monarchy. As a King looks to his second in command for counsel, a husband looks to his wife for support. He looks to her for respect and love.

Oftentimes, we forget that it is not easy for a husband to lead his family. The burden of being the head of the household is hard. He will be the protector. He will provide the example his children need of love and respect. The weight will be hard to hold, and on those days we will be his support. We will be the one he leans on. As women, we are the one who provide the support for our husband when he feels weak.

We have to use discernment to know when to say the things we are thinking. Sometimes it just means letting your husband do what he thinks is right. And sometimes you disagree with what he is doing but allow it anyway. That takes strength. He is our leader, but not our Lord. Our final authority should always be in Christ.

When we submit to our husband, we are giving him the assurance that says, “I trust you.” As the church submits to Christ, we submit to our husband. What makes submission so beautiful is the amount of strength a woman has when she allows her husband to lead their family.

This doesn't mean the husband is always right, or that things are always easy. But this is the model that God gave to us. A woman is most times better at nurturing and caring for the home. A man is usually better at providing for the home, and handling the financial stress. Is this always the case? No. There is always an exception.

When we seek to honor God through our submission, it will not make you weak.

You will be strong.

You will be courageous.

And you will be inspiring.

The most beautiful gift in the world a woman can give her husband is submission. Speak up when you have an opinion. Raise your children to know they are loved. Support your husband throughout life and in all its changes.