I just want to make it clear, that I by no means am or plan to a poet. I have only written one other poem my entire life. But to keep myself from going off and hurting myself mentally, emotionally, and physically after a break up, I started to read, (and reread) my poetry books. I wanted to vent, but I didn't want to write long Facebook status or share every sad post. I didn't even want to tell anyone. Although, I knew I needed to turn my hurt, pain and confusion into something healthy and healing. I started to write an article but I couldn't get the words out, unless they were in short pieces. So I tried, to with a poem.
Moving On
I want to change how you made me feel
I want to numb all the pain and hurt
that you left me to deal with
but how can I do that?
How can I numb the pain,
when I'm already numb?
I feel nothing at all
and at the same time
I feel everything at once
I'm like a walking corpse
begging for life again
And I would anything to get it
but nothing at the same time
How can one thing so simple
make me feel completely empty
and so full of pain and confusion
I've never been left more confused
more vulnerable
and so full of self hate
I've never felt this type of sadness
I was verging on depression again
But I slowly realized that I'll be okay
because I can see what you truly want
and what I truly need
And while my heart was with you
I learned why it should be with me
and I know I'll be more okay than ever
If You THINK You're Too Dependent On Your Boyfriend, You Probably Are
Depend on yourself before you depend on him.
Don't get me wrong, having a boyfriend and being in love is an incredible feeling. But when you depend on your boyfriend for everything and forget how to do things on your own, it becomes a major problem. You might not see it but your family and friends do. Yes he's your boyfriend and of course, you want to spend every single second with him but you can't carry him around in the back of your pocket for the rest of your life. So here's to the girls who are too dependent on your boyfriends, I think you girls might want to hear this.
First and foremost, I completely understand what it's like to be in love and want to spend every second with your boyfriend. I get that he is one of your best friends, one of the people you can trust the most, one of the sources of your happiness, one of your stress relievers, one of the things that brings you comfort, one of the people you can rant to for anything, one of the people that you can cry to about anything, one of the people that you want to make memories with, one of the people that you want to spend the rest of your life with and so much more.
Did you notice I said one of, for all that? He is just one of the people you can go to for all of that, not the only one. You have friends and family who can do all of that too. And trust me, we want to. While yes you might prefer him to those other people, it's still important to keep your friends and family in the loop of what's going on in your life and it's even more important just to keep them in your life.
When you choose your boyfriend over your friends and family for everything, you're slowly pushing them out of your life. I, and everyone else who's been where I have been, completely understand if you already have plans with your boyfriend, or if something is going on you want to spend time with him. But to blow off your friends every single time for him is a slap in the face to us. Or to invite him to everything we do is another slap in the face. Of course as friends and family, we want to spend time with your boyfriend but it gets awkward third wheeling.
Go out with your family and friends without him sometimes and make tons of memories, as you did before. Rant and cry to friends and family sometimes instead, we care about you and your feelings, just as much as he does... maybe, even more, when you guys are fighting. When you don't talk to or see your friends and family without him there, you're pretty much telling us that you don't like being around us and that by bringing him, it makes it more bearable for you.
With that being said, you have to let him do the same. You have to let him have time for his family and friends without you. It looks super weird that you follow him around like a lost little puppy dog. Let him have time with the guys, without you being there or showing up at some point. To tag along to every little thing he does isn't healthy. Tagging along to everything thing your boyfriend does, probably makes his friends, a little uncomfortable, especially when they want their guy time and you're the only girl and they don't want you to feel awkward or left out. Or his family wants to spend time with just him and catch up.
Do things apart from each other, so when you are together you have stories to tell and pictures to show them.
Speaking of doing things apart from each other. Don't let an amazing opportunity slip away because you have to spend time away from your boyfriend. Did I leave my boyfriend to do the Disney College Program, hell yes I did. Am I going to apply again in August or maybe January? Hell yes, I am. Don't be afraid to explore things without him, even if it makes you uncomfortable, because you never know when you might get a great opportunity again.
Learning to do things alone is scary, I get it. But don't base your schedule around his, I've seen so many girls do this and it just back fries in the end. Unless you have kids, you do not plan your schedules around him or know where he is at every single second.
You never know, one day he might not be there anymore, and if you're always with your boyfriend and forgetting about friends and family, you might not have them either. And then what? Who do you depend on?
I wish you all would learn to depend on yourself before you depend completely on your boyfriend for everything. You are capable of so many things alone. You might feel like your boyfriend completes you and makes you whole, but in reality, you were already complete without him. He's just an added bonus. Don't give up your friends, family, and life because you want to be attached at the hip. You might lose more than you gain by doing that.
This goes for couples who have been dating for all lengths of time. It could be six months or six years.
Open Letter To Incoming College Freshmen
It's not an easy adjustment, but you'll be okay.
You've received your acceptance letters in the mail and you're insanely excited. No words can fully express how happy you feel. You just know that you're starting a new chapter in your life and you can't wait for it to begin. You should. There's so many opportunities that are in your reach and soon, you'll be studying in a field that you're passionate about (or that pays well).
Now that you've seen your future bright and shiny in front of you, even if you haven't decided what you want to do with your life, reality sets in; all of the bills that'll drain your parent's bank accounts, enrolling in your classes, hoping that your professors aren't terrible, figuring out where you're going to live, terrified that you'll have the WORST roommate in the history of roommates, and so much more. If you're anything like me, the only thing that makes all those things bearable is the fact that you'll finally be out of your parent's house and able to make your own decisions without their supervision. Although if you're not like me, you're probably terrified of leaving home. Wondering how homesick you'll be, how you'll function without your parents, if they're okay, if your pets are okay, or terrified because you came to the realization that you don't know how to do your own laundry.
No matter how you feel after the excitement settles and reality sets in, you have to know that it's all okay. You WILL pull through and you WILL figure it out. Everyone does. Some take longer than others and THAT IS OKAY. The important thing to remember is that you'll eventually get there, to a comfortable point, and soon you'll be telling future incoming freshmen the same thing.
I'm currently a junior, soon to be a senior. I experienced almost every single one of these things. After I had practically drown myself with tears of joy, just seeing the envelope I might add, reality set in. 'How much is this going to cost? How will I know what to to enroll in? Where am I going to live? Will my roommate be easy to get along with or will I want to choke her?' And SO many more. That's perfectly normal and it's okay. I've never really been a nervous or scared person, but I was terrified. I was comfortable where I was, but I knew for me to get my degree for my dream career, it was what I needed to do. I put on my game face and I recommend you do the same. Even if you're terrified, fake it till you make it.
First and foremost, tuition will cost A LOT. But the main thing to keep in mind is that regardless of the impending financial situation, your parents are SO proud and they'll do anything and everything for you. They'll always be in your corner, supporting you financially and emotionally. They've been doing that your entire life anyway, and the fact that you're going to college and furthering your education has them giddy with excitement. And if y'all are struggling anyway, they'll find a way to make it work- always. If your help happens to be necessary, just get a job on campus. They're super simple and flexible with your class schedule- they HAVE to be (and don't let an employer tell you otherwise).
Enrolling for classes is easy, whether you know your major or not. You'll be taking your prerequisite classes (Gen-Eds) anyway, so you don't need to know. There should be a list on your school's website informing you of the classes that EVERYONE has to take. Start there and you'll be fine. And professors? They're hit and miss. Normally there's professor reviews somewhere online, so just find those and that'll tell you (almost) everything you need to know.
Living situation? ON-CAMPUS HOUSING. Normally colleges require incoming freshmen to live on campus anyway, so there you go. If you don't take a college tour (like me), there should (hopefully) be pictures or 360 degree views of the dorms so you can make your decision accordingly. It's super simple. Cost could limit where you live because of your family's budget and that's okay. You'll only be there for a semester or two max, then you can move somewhere else. And roommates from hell? In my experience, it's best to contact your roommate beforehand. If you choose a dorm with someone already listed, hopefully they'll have something in their roommate bio. If they don't, social media is always the answer (just don't be creepy). "Hi I'm so-and-so and I'm your roommate! I just wanted to get to know you since we'll be living together" or something like that. Normally the response is pleasant, so no worries. Figure out who will buy what (if you're sharing), set rules for each other AHEAD OF TIME, and so on. That way, nothing is unpleasant during move-in and it won't be as awkward! If you don't contact them beforehand, all I have to say is.. good luck.
If you're excited to leave home and get away from your parents, more power to you. But if you're not, it'll be okay. Your parents will be okay, your pets will be okay. Although if you have a dog or any animal that fits in an aquarium, most colleges allow you to bring them. Dogs have to be certified therapy dogs though. Just get a note from your doctor for depression, anxiety, etc. and there shouldn't be a problem. And PLEASE give your roommate a fair warning. Most are okay with it but some aren't, so just don't take the risk and surprise them. EVERYONE experiences homesickness eventually. Whether it's your parents, the rest of your family, the area, your friends, whatever. It's okay. Everyone is only a phone call away. If you live close, take road-trips back home and pay surprise visits to people. They'll absolutely love it, I promise.
Laundry? You'll be fine. Hopefully you already know how to do it but if you don't, just ask your parent(s) to show you before you leave. They'll probably laugh or smile uncontrollably but that's only because they're happy; happy that you're growing up into a functioning, self-sufficient adult.
If you're worried about making friends, it's okay. There are tons of clubs and events to attend. You'll make friends. That's a 100% guarantee with life-time warranty. They say that friends that you make in college last a lifetime. If I could think of anyone that's a perfect example of that, it's my mom. Her and her college friends have stuck by each others' sides, regardless of distance, disagreements or whatever, for 30-40 years (taking into consideration age and college returns). Excluding college, I've known my oldest friend basically our entire lives- all the way back to the diaper days. We're both almost 21 years old. Trust me when I say you'll make friends and y'all will be closer than any of your high school friends. Take that to heart. I learned the hard way.
Aside from all of this, you need to have fun. Go to games, even if you don't like sports. The vibe and excitement is worth it. Go to college parties- you need to experience at least ONE good one. When you're old enough, go bar-hopping with your friends. Be active in something other than school. --But PLEASE do your assignments first or you'll probably forget OR be stressed out because you're rushing to finish it before the midnight deadline. Learn from my personal experience please.
The most important thing that you NEED to know is that you'll CONSTANTLY be stressed out, but it'll all be worth it in the end. Search on Instagram, or whatever, #ClassOf2019 and look for college students. By now, they're getting their caps and gowns and taking their senior pictures. Think ahead four or five years. Picture yourself in that cap and gown. You can do this. That WILL be you.
Tattoos are in a constant state of flux, with new designs coming in and old ones changing in style and application.
Sometimes they're fun, sometimes they're dark and sometimes they're intensely dramatic. Most importantly, however, tattoos can do different things for different people and there is no one style or color that works for everyone.
A tattoo design for everyone is something that became a popular trend at the start of the millennium, and there are still several styles and approaches that will appeal to most people. Here are five tattoo ideas for the summer that look great for women of all skin tones.
1. Watermelon
Tattoos aren't necessarily unique for women, but the above watermelon and diamond pattern may be a particularly striking look for women. This design, while on the low-key side, is also colorful and looks great for those who don't go for the darker designs.
2. Silly-Cute
Bustle ranked the following sassy and cute tattoo options for women as some of their favorites for 2018:
Silly-Cute Tattoos That Women Are Loving In 2018 https://t.co/TqlDOHAYOP pic.twitter.com/0xM3Zo2Lds — Sally Beauty (@SallyBeautyEnt) January 4, 2018
3. Animal Lover
Instead of wanting to show off their favorite animal, perhaps a woman of any skin tone would rather show off her favorite animals. Her favorite creatures are usually large, such as tigers, horses, and other animals that stand out.
4. Fresh Spring Flowers
She has beautiful, fresh blooms as a tattoo design on her, and now that it's spring she doesn't want to cover them up.
5. Celeb Inspired
Celebrities are always changing their looks, and since tattoos are sometimes connected to a celebrity or style, they're more likely to be seen as fashion statements.
Some women want tattoos that stand out, and celebrities' designs are often recognizable. These tattoos are usually small or less attention grabbing in other ways, which makes them a bit more subdued for women.
But no matter what type of tattoo you want to get, they're all available for your design inspiration. The internet is a great source for graphic ideas and even though not everyone's going to want to get a matching set of sleeves or a multi-piece design, their styles are a great jumping off point for even more unique ideas.
One thing to remember is that if you are looking for inspiration, to look at designs that will work on different skin tones. A tattoo that only works on a light tan or a light brunette, for example, won't look as good on darker skin tones. Also, if you want to be memorable, it's usually best to choose a tattoo that only you would want to get.
Women love to look at tattoo designs, and it can be a great way to keep their own inspiration fresh. Just be sure to use your common sense when picking designs, and don't get anything you're not sure you want to get forever.
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10 Comments All Skinny People Are Tired Of Hearing Every Day
Being too thin is JUST as dangerous, and unhealthy as being too overweight.
As long as I can remember I've been rather thin. I've never had really had a problem eating growing up, so it's not like I've been deprived of food and nutrients. I just can't seem to gain, and maintain a healthy weight. Which is actually super dangerous and can cause a ton of health-related issues.
But people don't seem to realize that, all they see is a "model" like body, and all that comes out of their mouth are annoying comments. Let me tell you, coming from somebody who's been skinny their entire life, these comments are super annoying and really need to stop, because in all reality, being skinny isn't as glamorous as everyone makes it out to be.
1. You need some meat on those bones.
Trust me, we know, and we're trying.
2. Do you even weigh 100 pounds?
Funny. But yes actually, must of us do in fact have a weight in the 100's.
3. Yeah soaking wet. *after we told them how much we weigh*
Why would we be lying to you? And Why are you thinking about us soaking wet...?
4. I bet it's really easy to shop for clothes.
It's actually really hard, nothing fits correctly, and nothing looks even remotely normal on us. There's one store I can buy jeans from and if they ever go out of business, I'm quitting at life.
5. Do you not like eating?
We love eating thank you.
6. You must be a picker eater.
We aren't, in fact I'll eat anything you put in front of me.
7. You must really like your body.
I can only speak for myself here, but my entire life I have not like how skinny I am, and have tried for years and years and years to change that.
8. You're so boney.
Thanks, you have the same amount of bones as I do, sooo *you're* boney too.
9. This wind is going to blow you away.
We wish it would blow us away from your comment.
10. Can I pick you up?
No, why would you even ask that, we aren't toddlers.