My boyfriend is black and I am Asian. You can call us Blasian. As cute as that may sound, we often find ourselves in not-so-cute situations. We always see the highlight reels of interracial #couplegoals on Instagram and YouTube channels dedicated to interracial dating, but what's it actually like being in an interracial relationship?
1. You have to get used to weird looks when you're out in public.
Come on, people, it's 2019. I get it though, a black guy and Asian girl isn't really something you see every day where I live.
2. People make ignorant comments disguised as "jokes".
"Oh, you like 'em tight?" "Oh, you have a thing for BBC?" Please, stop.
3. People think you guys have "a thing for" people of your partner's race.
Maybe I just love them as a human being? Just because I'm dating a black guy, doesn't mean I have "a thing" for black guys.
4. Merging cultures can be challenging.
It's like taking two completely different worlds and trying to make them one. It's a challenge, to say the least, but you have to focus on how each culture enriches the relationship. Don't put the emphasis on how you differ, but how you're more alike than you think.
5. Your family members aren't sure what to think.
My boyfriend and I are lucky because neither of our families have been problematic, but I know not every other interracial couple can say the same thing. You family members most likely have good intentions, but may say something ignorant about your partner. My advice is to take it with a grain of salt.
6. Your might as well forget having a name.
My name is now "the Asian girl who dates the black guy." Nice.
7. The babies you don't even have yet are already getting talked about.
I know mixed babies are cute and what not, but imagine how weird it'd be if you said the same things to a couple that isn't interracial.
8. People think you're "self-hating."
Dating someone outside of my own race doesn't mean I'm against my own race. I remember someone left a comment on my boyfriend and I's couple tag YouTube video saying, "Woooooow another self-hating Asian woman typical." First of all, this person cannot even spell. Second, am I really though? I don't see how it's hating myself to date a man who respects me and treats me good.
9. You automatically have a connection with other interracial couples because they know the struggle.
Sometimes you just look at each other and know.
10. No one will ever truly understand your relationship, but that's okay.
You know how amazing your relationship is, and you wouldn't trade it for anything!
