Investing your all into something is both a blessing and a curse. We're a rare kind and worth having by your side, but sometimes it ends up not working out in our favor. From friendships to relationships, having a big heart can turn everything you intended to be good straight to bad.
We give everything our all because that is all we know. We were taught love is the cure to life. And sometimes our intentions and motives may have been abused and taken out of context.
But someone, someday will appreciate our big hearts and complicated minds and know how to properly care for someone with a loving soul. For those of you who do have a big heart, I'm here to tell you it's okay, despite the struggles we do have to face.
Here are five signs you face when having a big heart:
1. You forgive people easily.
Sometimes maybe even more than once. When you often tend to forgive people who don't deserve to be forgiven, they usually take advantage of it because they know that you'll most likely forgive them again in the end, and accept them back in your life no matter what they do.
2. You continue to see the good in people.
Times when someone continues to do you wrong and everyone else around you tries to warn and tell you, but you defend them despite of what they may have done. You think back to all the things they did right and who you have made them out to be not taking in consideration of what other people say and try to give them the credit. Oftentimes, those people on the outside give you the warning signs and paints the truth before you're able to, but the good thing is, you can learn from these kind of people and see the good in the right people.
3. You forget how to say "no."
You don't wan't to let anyone down so you stick to what you know. You want everyone around you to feel comfortable and are willing to help as many people as you can. You fear or forget to say no to avoid offending them and make yourself feel guilty in the long run.
4. You're really good at taking care of others, but don't always know how to accept help in return.
You see one of your friends going through it, and you automatically want to help and be there for them. Whether they're sick, crying, upset, you want to do something for them even if they don't want you to. When it comes to people doing something for you, it's a totally different story. Deep down, you do want the help, but you aren't the best at accepting help from others and sometimes may push people away.
5. You truly believe in love.
When it comes to love, you wholeheartedly believe that there is someone out there for you. You believe that you are meant to be with your soulmate and know that it's out of your hands who that may be. In your defense, love is supposed to be effortless, and when it happens, it'll happen but until then, you're willing to spread love all throughout.
With that being said, you love hard.
People with big hearts love very seriously. Unfortunately, because we have so much love to give, we sometimes give too much love and end up giving it to the wrong person in some cases. We become invested in people and like to smother them with affection. We make sure that those who are showered with this type of attention are the most important and are appreciated by always being there for them.
What we need to realize is that not everyone has the same heart as us. This is the hardest lesson that we have to accept and understand, that means that we have to realize that most of the things we do for someone won't always be given in return or appreciated to the height it should be. We have to realize that the things we do are in a way, for ourselves, to make us feel better and not done with intentions of getting something in return.
