PSA: ALL girls are insecure in some way no matter how confident they may seem.
If we're being honest, we all worry about what others think. Some may worry more than others, but we all do. We all have something we absolutely don't like about ourselves whether it be physical, emotional, intellectual, etc.
A common myth is that once you're in a relationship, or even when you get married, it all goes away. That is a straight lie. If anything, the insecurities become amplified. Not only are you trying to impress your significant other, but also his friends, family, ex-girlfriends, and the list goes on and on.
I have been in a relationship for two years now, and I still have insecurities. I get jealous, I get worried and I get mad. I constantly find myself wondering if I'm good enough.
Then I remember how insane I am for letting those thoughts run through my mind.
He chose me. He choses me daily.
Although I am not married, I have spoken with several young married women about this topic. They've told me the struggles of insecurity within a marriage: the fear of not being a good wife or not being able to provide for their husbands.
While this is a topic that may be cliché, it can never be emphasized enough. You need to know your worth. I am right there with you sister; I don't have it figured out. It is something I'll constantly struggle with, but that doesn't mean I'm going to sulk around and worry that my boyfriend/spouse doesn't find me attractive or doesn't love me anymore. That's complete nonsense. You do not need to worry about other girls. There will always be someone who you think is funnier, smarter, and prettier. But that doesn't mean you need to be worried that you aren't good enough. That doesn't mean you let your insecurities win. That doesn't mean you dim your light for someone else.
To the girls who are in relationships, when he "likes" another girl's photo on Instagram, don't be alarmed. He probably isn't even thinking about it the way you are. Boys don't over analyze everything like we do. He loves you, so don't psych yourself out over it.
To the girls who aren't in relationships...don't be afraid to be in one out of fear or because you don't feel like you're pretty enough.
NEWSFLASH: You are a total babe.
Don't think that because he doesn't comment on every selfie you post that he doesn't think you're pretty. Don't think that just because he doesn't tell you every day how beautiful you are that he doesn't think so. Guys don't work like girls. Remember that the next time you start to sweat when you see a pretty girl walk by. Don't fixate on what others have that you don't have. Focus on what you do have.
