Ladies, it’s time we stop comparing ourselves to everyone around us. No, not all women do this, but plenty do and it’s time we put an end to it and start to love who we are.
We live in a society that revolves around the constant strive to look and be like someone else. Whether it’s Kim Kardashian or just that beautiful girl in your History class. With the constant trends blowing up our social media, we are in a constant game of “keep up.” I myself am guilty of playing this game. In my head, I have a mental checklist. This checklist is of all the new clothing items, all the new makeup trends, anything that comes out and someone else might have. Every time I get one of those items or master that new makeup technique, I can mentally check that box off in my head. The goal is to have all the boxes checked off, which in turn, you will finally be “equal” to THAT girl. The problem with this game is that it is impossible to win. Have you ever noticed that every time you finally get that “new” thing, something even newer comes out? This is so we are never fully fulfilled and will always be comparing ourselves. we will compare until we have all those boxes checked off which is impractical, being that another box will always appear, creating this vicious cycle.
Like I said, it’s time we stop comparing and just live our own lives. We need to do what is good for us; what makes sense to us. What is the right step for someone else might not be the right step for you.
I want everyone to stop and think, why do we spend so much time and effort comparing ourselves to someone else? Do we really think we can become them? Do we really think we should become them? Hopefully, your answer is no, which is okay. We were not born to be someone else. We were born to be ourselves and if you spend all of that time trying to be someone else, you will never get to be your true self.
My entire life, I have been in constant comparison to everyone around me. No matter who I was friends with, I would find something that they have that I do not and would let that ruin me and drive me into a downward spiral. It wasn’t until recently that I came to the realization that this doesn’t make sense. I am wasting so much time looking at what other people have and not enough at what I have. Not being exactly like everyone else is not a bad thing.
So here’s where I start spewing clichés (although the most cliché of clichés tend to be the most accurate). We as women need to stop tearing each other down. We need to stop making someone feel less-than for not possessing something that another has. We need to start lifting each other up because it shouldn’t matter what we have and what we look like because we should be different. Who wants to be the same as the girl next to them? What is exciting about that? What is unique about that? Be yourself. Once you finally let go and embrace who you are, you will finally be happy. You will be free. You will be you.
