Stop Thanking Your Boyfriend Just For Being A Great Boyfriend

Stop Thanking Your Boyfriend Just For Being A Great Boyfriend

Why should you have to thank him for respecting you and your wishes?
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OK, let's be honest, you've probably had a one-night stand guy, you've probably had the casual 'f**k boy', the late night booty call, or maybe a few of each. So, once you get the 'nice guy' you don't exactly understand how to deal with it. Or in some cases the disguised nice guy. So, this leads to having to thank your boyfriend alll over social media for everyone to see. Which leads us to the fact that you shouldn't have to thank your boyfriend for being a great boyfriend. Yes, I did just say that. Have I done it before? Yes, but I shouldn't of.

You should never have to thank your boyfriend for treating you with respect because literally everyone is supposed to treat each other with respect. You shouldn't have to thank your boyfriend for not talking to that girl that tries to flirt with him because he shouldn't try to do something that would hurt your relationship. You shouldn't have to thank your boyfriend for spending time with you because that is part of the relationship ya know? Why do you thank your boyfriend for the silliest of things?

Is it because you haven't been treated right in the past? Is it because you feel like you don't deserve it? It is because it feels like a privilege?

Well, hate to break it to you, but you need to stop thanking your boyfriend for being a great boyfriend.

You see, a lot of people that relationships last a longer amount of time usually don't have to thank their boyfriends or their fiances or their husbands because they know how to treat a lady.

STOP thanking your boyfriend for doing the simplest of tasks because it isn't worth it.

I've thanked guys in the past and they literally would do nothing for me, I wonder why? I'm not saying don't show appreciation towards your boyfriend, I'm not saying don't say thank you when they bring you something by surprise, I'm saying to stop thanking them for doing something that men are supposed to do. Appreciate him, love him, and be happy with him, but stop thanking him for doing things that he should be doing.

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​An Open Letter To The People Who Don’t Tip Their Servers

This one's for you.
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Dear Person Who Has No Idea How Much The 0 In The “Tip:" Line Matters,

I want to by asking you a simple question: Why?

Is it because you can't afford it? Is it because you are blind to the fact that the tip you leave is how the waiter/waitress serving you is making their living? Is it because you're just lazy and you “don't feel like it"?

Is it because you think that, while taking care of not only your table but at least three to five others, they took too long bringing you that side of ranch dressing? Or is it just because you're unaware that as a server these people make $2.85 an hour plus TIPS?

The average waiter/waitress is only supposed to be paid $2.13 an hour plus tips according to the U.S. Department of Labor.

That then leaves the waiter/waitress with a paycheck with the numbers **$0.00** and the words “Not a real paycheck." stamped on it. Therefore these men and women completely rely on the tips they make during the week to pay their bills.

So, with that being said, I have a few words for those of you who are ignorant enough to leave without leaving a few dollars in the “tip:" line.

Imagine if you go to work, the night starts off slow, then almost like a bomb went off the entire workplace is chaotic and you can't seem to find a minute to stop and breathe, let alone think about what to do next.

Imagine that you are helping a total of six different groups of people at one time, with each group containing two to 10 people.

Imagine that you are working your ass off to make sure that these customers have the best experience possible. Then you cash them out, you hand them a pen and a receipt, say “Thank you so much! It was a pleasure serving you, have a great day!"

Imagine you walk away to attempt to start one of the 17 other things you need to complete, watch as the group you just thanked leaves, and maybe even wave goodbye.

Imagine you are cleaning up the mess that they have so kindly left behind, you look down at the receipt and realize there's a sad face on the tip line of a $24.83 bill.

Imagine how devastated you feel knowing that you helped these people as much as you could just to have them throw water on the fire you need to complete the night.

Now, realize that whenever you decide not to tip your waitress, this is nine out of 10 times what they go through. I cannot stress enough how important it is for people to realize that this is someone's profession — whether they are a college student, a single mother working their second job of the day, a new dad who needs to pay off the loan he needed to take out to get a safer car for his child, your friend, your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, you.

If you cannot afford to tip, do not come out to eat. If you cannot afford the three alcoholic drinks you gulped down, plus your food and a tip do not come out to eat.

If you cannot afford the $10 wings that become half-off on Tuesdays plus that water you asked for, do not come out to eat.

If you cannot see that the person in front of you is working their best to accommodate you, while trying to do the same for the other five tables around you, do not come out to eat. If you cannot realize that the man or woman in front of you is a real person, with their own personal lives and problems and that maybe these problems have led them to be the reason they are standing in front of you, then do not come out to eat.

As a server myself, it kills me to see the people around me being deprived of the money that they were supposed to earn. It kills me to see the three dollars you left on a $40 bill. It kills me that you cannot stand to put yourself in our shoes — as if you're better than us. I wonder if you realize that you single-handedly ruined part of our nights.

I wonder if maybe one day you will be in our shoes, and I hope to God no one treats you how you have treated us. But if they do, then maybe you'll realize how we felt when you left no tip after we gave you our time.

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12 You Should Know About Your Significant Other After You've Been Dating 12 Months Or More

You have multiple food orders memorized.

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Dating someone for a year+ means that you are bound to know things you might not have known in the early months of the relationship. You also might act differently than you did at the beginning of the relationship.

Here are 12 things you know when you've been dating for over a year.

1. Clothing size, shoe size

This one you can probably be able to figure out early in the relationship. But, you start to keep in the back of your mind and think of that person when you see clothes or a pair of shoes they might like.

2. You can guess what they are going to text back

Especially if it is just a casual conversation about nothing in particular. You know their go-to responses.

3. You have multiple food orders memorized

Their food orders, of course.

4. You have that one TV show you can put on and neither of you will complain

And that is "The Office."

5. You don't get jealous

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6. You know likes and dislikes

And can assume if they are going to like or dislike something.

7. You got a LONG Snapstreak

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8. Their successes make you just as happy as it makes them

Seeing your significant other do well and accomplish something great is just as rewarding as if you had done the same.

9. Your friends are his friends and his friends are your friends

And you can all hang out together.

10. You have your favorite restaurants

That we always end up going to.

11. You've met everyone in the family and extended family

And you feel like part of the family.

12. You know extremely personal things about each other

That you would not necessarily share with the public.

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