I’m sure I am not the only person out there who has met up with old friends or went to a family function where you knew only a handful of people and you immediately get pummeled with questions all about your life. The one that aggravates me the most is, “So are you seeing anyone yet?” or “Why are you still single? You’re so beautiful.” Young men and women get asked these types of questions constantly and trust me, we are done answering them.
As most of us know, relationships take work. And it’s not just a simple text here and there with some nice words and romantic gestures thrown around. No, it’s taking time out of your life to invest in someone else’s because you care and want to be there for all of their ups and downs, be there to make them happy when they’re sad, be their support, and even be their light when they feel like they are surrounded by darkness. Relationships are built off of kindness, respect, and trust just to name a few. If you are not fully willing to commit that kind of time to another person, then maybe it’s best you stay single.
I’m not sure why but I always feel like society makes it seem like being single in your early or late 20’s is a massive problem. When in reality, it’s not. There are some people in this world who met their partner in between sixth and seventh period, got married and have lived a happily ever after lifestyle. There are others who have yet to find the one because they decided to take a different path and put more of their focus elsewhere. We each have a different story.
Sometimes it’s too difficult to put the work into both a relationship and a career and do both well. Not all of us are fabulous multi-taskers. Yes, I understand nothing is perfect but so many people my age are getting ready for their final year of college, they have responsibilities to various organizations, societies, clubs and trying to figure out their next step in life. Or maybe they are the boss of their own company or just took over the family business. Whatever the story is we all want to be successful. Now think about trying to add someone else’s life, who is also probably facing all these similar events of their own, into the mix. It’s not an easy feat and to those who can do it, I applaud you.
If you’re in a relationship, great! I hope you and your partner are happy and deeply in love because love is a beautiful emotion. If you’re single-equally as great! Travel, talk to people, do something absolutely wild, and find yourself. Just be happy with where you are in life and embrace every moment. And society? Well, you just need to back off and let everyone be at peace with their choices they’ve made within the love life category. There is no need to make anyone feel bad about being single just like there is no need to make anyone feel bad for getting married at a young age. Being single can be incredibly liberating if you just let it.
