I'm currently a member of multiple Facebook groups filled with anywhere from 30 to 3,000 members. While I love these groups, they're all filled with girls, and with girls comes drama. A lot of this drama doesn't occur in these groups, but gets brought into these groups for advice.

Some of the advice girls are always asking for is how to deal with their friend's girlfriend, who always seems to be worried their boyfriend is cheating, asking where their boyfriend is, or other similar questions. While most girls give valuable advice, there are many girls who comment on how "insecure" these girlfriends are. Well I'm here to say: this needs to stop.

As a girl who has always been insecure about most things in my life: my family, my friends, my body, and yes, my relationships -- one of the worst things I see on these pages meant for sisterly support is girls talking about how terrible it is that these girls are so insecure.

To these girls: what is so wrong with being insecure? Have you never been insecure about anything in your life? Do you like every aspect of your body? Have you never been jealous of somebody else's achievements or attention they've received from somebody else? Have you never been cheated on by a partner? If you answered: no, yes, nope, and no to the last four questions, then awesome! I am so happy that these aspects of your life are perfect, but that does not give you any right to judge another girl for her insecurities.

Every single person I know is insecure about something. I know girls who are insecure about how thin they are. I know people who are insecure about the size of their eyes. I know people who are insecure about the size of their butt. Personally, I'm insecure about my nose -- which I broke freshman year of college. So how are these insecurities any different than insecurities that involve relationships?

To be completely honest, all of these girls who are judging the girlfriend for being insecure don't know a thing about the girl -- they don't even know a thing about the relationship. The only thing they know is what was in the post, which is only from one perspective; an outsider's perspective.

I have been cheated on in relationships. I have had other girls chosen over me, two hours after being told "I love you." Are these things supposed to make me feel secure about myself? About my future relationships? I have had a hard time learning how to trust others. I've also been judged about these insecurities that have to do with relationships. But honestly, nobody knows anything that happens inside these relationships. So who are they to judge?

You have no idea what these girls have gone through. You don't know their journey, and you don't know their relationship. We all have insecurities. So stop shaming other people for their personal insecurities; all you're doing is making it worse, and making others feel unwelcome with their insecurities.

And to you girls who have these insecurities: embrace them. We all have some type of insecurity, and your insecurities are all the same as the rest of ours. Don't let anybody ever make you feel bad for feeling insecure about something.