Mark Twain said, “Comparison is the death of joy.”
We all have been there. We've all felt the need to compare ourselves to other people. We all have felt those feelings of wishing we were someone else or that we wish we had what someone else had. We have all killed our joy for the sake of hoping for somethings that just won't come true.
“Oh my gosh, I want her hair! It is so long and beautiful.”
“I wish I was as talented as her on the piano; she can play like a pro.”
“I wish I was as well off as him and his family. Sometimes I wish I didn't live on a single parent income.”
From young ages to more recent times, the reality of self comparison is still happening. Let’s be real with ourselves, though. How we ourselves act to the public, like when we go to work, class or out to lunch, is different than how we are behind closed doors in our apartments, homes and private spaces. On a daily basis, it is so easy to say, “Oh, I’m fine. I’m having a great day” when you are really thinking, “Today is crazy busy; I can’t keep up” or “I just to crawl back into bed.” In the midst of the everyday chaos of life, it is so easy for us to compare ourselves.
“Wow, she is so pretty, her outfit is on point!”
“Wow, they aced the test so why didn’t I?”
“Wow, their life seems so much better than mine — I wish I was them.”
But that is no way to live! So please stop the pity-party. Stop feeling down about yourself. Please realize your self worth and everything you bring to the table — you have just as much to bring to the table as anyone else in this world. Realize that we are all good at different areas of expertise. You don't have to be good at everything and honestly possibly won't be, but know that you can be the best version of yourself. Be yourself and take everyday at a time. We all won't have good days but we don't need to let the idea of self comparison make us feel any worse. In life you need patience, practice and faith in yourself.
Please stop killing your joy. Live your life knowing that you have so much self worth. Don't try to degrade yourself because it doesn't help you grow as a person. Stop self comparing and start accepting yourself as you are. Start by thinking and saying, "I got this!" "I don't to compare myself to others" and "I have so much to love about myself."
