Is this it? Could this be him?
Every time I start texting a guy, hanging out with a guy, (hell, see a guy look at me on the street), I wonder could this be it? Could this stranger or familiar face be my Prince Charming I've been patiently impatiently waiting for? The thought of finally meeting the love of my life has become an obsession of sorts. It's so frustrating being in your twenties these days and seeing people you know get engaged and start families of their own. Better yet, having so many friends and family members ask when you plan on settling down, or why you're always single. Honestly, the only thing I have to say to them, is that it isn't fun waiting and it isn't awesome watching all of your friends find some grand fairy tale and take strides in their relationships (which, of course, seem picture perfect). It's exhausting constantly trying to fit someone into my perfect ideal mold or hoping the missing puzzle piece will gladly appear. So many times I've considered settling with someone who doesn't deserve me, or with someone that could make me happy, satisfied, but doesn't make my stomach do back flips. A lot of times, I settled for Mr. Right Now instead of Mr. Right. You are worth more than being that girl who in with a guy because she doesn't want to be alone.
Many times I've prayed "God, please bring him to me soon."
Then that's when I realized, I have been praying a man will let me find him. Praying that I would finally find Mr. Right. All of the men coming in and out of my life weren't "him" because I wasn't looking at myself as the prize. I was looking at every boy I wanted to want me, as the prize. But ladies, a man can't chase you if you aren't running. I had placed my own standards lower than I had wanted, just because of my low patience and wondering why every guy coming around wasn't Mr. Wonderful. I wasn't allowing myself to be chased and become pursued by someone that thought I was worth pursuing.
You are the prize.
When you pursue a man, you won't ever know if it's his heart that loves you or the attention. When a man pursues you, it's because he knows what he wants and will go after it at all costs. A man doesn't waste his time on something he doesn't truly believe is worth his time. God, sometimes doesn't bring your Prince Charming right away. Sometimes he's still working on him, or even you. Men aren't looking for lazy women, most times. They don't want a woman who has been waiting around for a man to sweep her off her feet. Meanwhile, while you are still single, don't wait to be pursued. Rather become a woman worth pursuing. Men are attracted to independent, smart women. A man worth having, is living his life, enjoying his friends, and working on his career. So become a woman worthy of a man worth having. Become someone he will want to show you off to at every work event, bring you around his crazy family adventures, and someone he would want his future children to look up to.
So, set those standards high. There is someone out there looking for a woman like you to pursue. Be patient, and don't waste your time on guys you wouldn't meet at the alter. Don't be afraid to live your life, thinking your Prince Charming won't find you. And when he comes, don't play hard to get, be hard to get.
What do you want to be doing when your Prince Charming finds you?
