Don't Go Looking For That Special Someone, Pray For Them Instead

Don't Go Looking For That Special Someone, Pray For Them Instead

"I talk to God about you and I ain't even met you yet." ~Dan + Shay


I went through a stage in my life where I was always looking for a relationship. All of my friends were engaged, getting married, or were in serious relationships. I was the friend in the group that desperately wanted to be with someone who would buy me tacos and tell me that I'm pretty. Now, I was able to find someone to buy me tacos and tell me that I was pretty but when it came to being a relationship I didn't necessarily luck out in the area. But; I was so desperate to be in a relationship I thought to myself that if I keep on "talking" to that person then eventually they will want to be monogamous with me. If I kept doing whatever made him happy it will keep him around and he wouldn't be seeing anyone else. Boy, was I wrong! I quickly learned that looking for a relationship and telling all of my lady friends that their guy friends were cute in hope of them setting me up with their friend wasn't just a bad look for me but it made me look desperate and let's be honest here; no guy wants to be with a desperate girl.

As I got older I stopped looking for a relationship. I would still go out to eat with guys here and there but I stopped looking for that dream relationship that I was dreaming about. I stopped thinking about how to keep the guy around. I stopped worrying about whether or not they were seeing someone else. I learned that I was better than that. I learned that I deserved the best and deserved to be treated like a princess. More importantly, I learned that instead of looking for a relationship I should be not only praying for a beautiful relationship but also praying for the person who I will be in a relationship with. Realizing that I should be praying for my future relationship but also my future boyfriend, future husband, future father of my children was me letting go and trusting in the plan that God has in store for me.

Instead of thinking about your dream guy; Pray that he will love you just for being you. Instead of looking for that love story in fairy tales; Pray that your future relationship will not just be a beautiful relationship but a relationship where both of you can grow in your faith together. Instead of worrying about being lonely; Pray that your future significant other is happy wherever he is.

They always say that love comes when you are least expecting it. You never know what will happen when you stop looking for love. Who knows; it may be waiting to hit you in the face the moment you stop looking.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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We Spend So Much Time Talking About How Much Men Suck In 2019, That We Forget Girls Are Just As Bad

I always talk about how awful guys can be, but let's take a second to talk about how awful my own sex can be, too.


In our culture, we tend to place all the blame on guys in most relationships by saying how "all men suck" but what about girls?

Girls can be just as bad.

I'm constantly saying how bad guys can be but yet I never stop to analyze things I've done that weren't okay or things my fellow female friends have done that was awful.

I'm not innocent either, I've done some terrible things to really nice guys in my life.

There was one man in my life that genuinely cared for me and wanted to date me but I didn't feel the same at all and lead him on. I honestly didn't think I was leading him on at first but the minute I realized it I tried to nicely let him down. To this day I feel awful about it because I hurt him the way many other guys in my life have hurt me.

I tend to defend my own gender a lot in conversations and I now understand that I really shouldn't. I've seen so many of my female friends treat great guys terribly and have ignored it for so long because I want to believe that females can't be that awful. I was wrong.

I've had some of my best guy friends get treated like absolute garbage by girls that wanted to just party and partake in the hookup culture rather than be with a great guy. I don't get it.

If you have a great man that you're attracted to and loves you unconditionally why would you want to throw it away to chase after boys that won't remember your name the next day?

I've had to keep secrets for friends before that ate me up inside. I had a friend who cheated on her boyfriend by kissing another man in front of me and kept it quiet.

It is NEVER okay to do that to someone, especially a guy that truly cares about you.

It is NOT OK to be on dating apps while dating someone. If you are dating someone, you're exclusive. There is no need to continue talking to men that obviously don't want to just be your friend. There is no good excuse and if you have to try and justify it to yourself, then it's probably not a good idea.

I honestly made myself believe that females didn't play the games men play with our hearts, but we can be just as bad if not worse than a lot of men.

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