Stop Expecting Your Significant Other To Chase After You
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Stop Expecting Your Significant Other To Chase After You

Storming out during an argument is on you, not on them.

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Stop Expecting Your Significant Other To Chase After You
@jordanleedooley

If there is one recurring moment in a romance movie that sticks out to us the most, it is the moment when a distressed character storms out of the room after an argument and their significant other follows them out, ready to save the day.

Bleh. Another false expectation for people to tightly wrap themselves around.

"If they really loved me, they would chase after me," says every distressed teen.

Well, if they're smart, they won't. Unless you have a unique situation where it is safest to be leaving, walking out just because you're upset is one of the worst ways to handle an issue.

They are your partner for a reason. That means that working together through issues is crucial. Silence will solve nothing.

You may find yourself storming out because you believe that being alone is better than anything you might have to say to your partner, and we've all been there, but there is a better way to approach the situation.

Address the issue as calmly as possible. If you can only manage to scream and call each other names, which is sometimes the first response, you may not be mature enough to be having the conversation. Remaining civil is the first step to finding a healthy medium.

If you know in your heart that you need to be alone, though, there is no problem with that. Telling your partner that you need to step outside and think is much better than slamming the door.

The next step is asking yourself the real reason you planned on storming out.

There is a stereotype that they love you if they follow you, and they don't care if they don't.

So ask yourself the tough question. Are you trying to get reassurance that they are in love with you, or are you actually just upset about the argument?

It's usually the first one, and I'm here to say that this is the wrong way to get reassurance. Of course, we all want it during a tough conversation, but you shouldn't need to go out of your way like that to get it.

So, if you're finding yourself on the verge of walking out during a tough situation, try to approach it a different way. And if you realize you're walking out for something bigger than the argument, it may be time to re-evaluate your relationship. Just remember that, in a romantic relationship, silence is your biggest enemy.

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