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Stop Babying Your Babies

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Stop Babying Your Babies
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I don't know what the deal is. I see so many people grow up claiming they NEVER want their kids to end up like that spoiled brat or little pervert, yet 10 years down the road, they've become the very parents they once criticized. Don't let that be you.

I may not be a parent yet, but through my observation of parents I respect, experiences as a babysitter, and role of oldest child, I've learned a few things that I think can have quite an impact in the long run.

1. Be the kind of person that earns and deserves respect. If you have respect for yourself and you respect and are respected by others, you are more likely to earn respect in the home.

2. Utilize discipline and rewards as needed. Don't give undue attention to bad behavior. If discipline is necessary, don't just make empty threats. On the other hand, reward good behavior and accomplishments. Again, be sure to follow through and keep promises.

3. Avoid lying to your children. Not only does it decrease trust but it sets a terrible example. I, personally, don't think it's right to raise kids to believe in Santa or the Tooth Fairy or the Easter Bunny. Of course, that's up to each parent to decide for themselves.

4. Make your home a place of peace and love. You should make sure the priority is keeping your children safe and with the knowledge that they are loved and protected. Orchestrate happy activities as a family that encourage good relationships between parents, children, and siblings.

5. Help them understand your values and beliefs. Ultimately, they get to decide what they believe in, but the more you educate them on why you feel the way you do, the more likely they are to pick it up or at least be content with your decisions. If they don't agree with you, be sure to ask why and actively listen. Don't try to force it on them if they aren't willing to accept it. This can damage your relationship drastically.

6. Tell stories. Be open and willing to discuss your life with your kids. Let them get to know you as someone other than JUST mom or dad. It's important for them to understand who you were, are, and would like to be. They are more open and better able to relate and connect with you when you're open with them.

7. Have a good attitude. If you are doing your best to smile, look on the bright side, and serve others, that positive energy will affect everyone else in your household. It sets a good example of how you want others to act in your home.

8. Teach them to work hard. Raise them to be self sufficient and able to do things on their own. Don't do everything for them, and certainly don't let someone else step in just because you aren't. If they earnestly need help, then by all means help them. But don't let them cry wolf.

I know what I want my future home to be like, and I don't plan on letting things slide like so many parents nowadays tend to do. Let's end this "now generation" and "millennials" crap, and focus on putting more greatness out into the world! It's time for a change.

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