Why me?
Why now?
And just plain why?
I found myself asking these questions a lot throughout my early adulthood, especially when it came to the people that entered my life. I soon started to realize that I never asked why someone entered my life until something caused me to wish they had never entered.
Whether it be something as simple as a bad roommate experience, or as devastating as losing a friend too soon, there was always a common factor involved: I ended up hurt so I turned up and wondered why I had to ever have a feeling as terrible as the one I was feeling at the time.
It wasn’t until a great deal of time passed after each of these experiences that I truly learned how grateful I was to have had each one of them in my life, no matter how bad the ending was. I was able to look at the different people that entered my life and saw a lesson in each one of them.
Some of them were lessons in compassion within myself, others were not as simple. The one most important encounters came with the most pain attached. It wasn’t until the wounds associated were healed that I could see how lucky I was to have had an experience with that one particular person.
If you’re mad that you just had to meet that one wrong guy at the one wrong time; instead ask yourself, "what’s one good thing that came out of the experience?" If you are saddened by wondering why someone was put into your life only to leave it in a short and devastating way, NEVER regret meeting them instead look back and cherish the times that were spent enjoying each other.
Anger is a very normal feeling when dealing with the loss of a person or a relationship, and it is very easy to start to become cynical and to build walls. Having a positive look on every new person that enters your life can be terrifying, however, once you can look past those feelings you can start to understand that everything truly does happen for a reason.
Trusting in God is much easier said than done, especially when you don’t understand why the things in your life aren’t aligning the way you planned. I have always understood that there is a greater plan our there for me, but I was still questioning why every person came into my life. It wasn’t until I truly experienced loss that I stopped asking, "why?"
Although losing this person was very painful, for the first time I did not ask why they had to come into my life in the first place. I was immediately grateful for the opportunity to share the short time of my life that I did with them.
This was the first time someone had caused me pain and I did not ask God why they came into my life only to leave shortly after. Although I did not know every reason at the beginning, I knew that they were placed in my life because God wanted them to be.
Now I don’t ask why when I am confused about God’s plan for myself. I feel as though I am living a much better life for not questioning every second of it. It is important to have trust in his plan. There are times I still get upset over people who have come and gone from my life, but now I don’t question their presence in my life. I know why; maybe not in the moment, but I know someday I will.
