It's the same old story. Boy meets girl, girl gets attached, boy falls in love, relationship ends eventually. It's a cycle, a miserable cycle. What's also inevitable, unfortunately enough, is that long after one has forgotten the other, someone is always left hanging on to what used to be. But why?
Too bad I don't have the answer. I wish I could answer that for anyone who's still pining over someone else because it sucks to love and not be loved in return, especially when you know how they used to feel. So, you guys were in a relationship for a while. So, you all talked about what comes after college. So, there was even the occasional mention of something more like the eventual marriage or theoretical children. Let's be logical for a second, though. Only about "28 percent of married graduates attended the same college as their spouse," according to USA Today. That might sound depressing, but this is good news. You have time.
Why are you still holding on to someone if they let you go? Humans, in general, are designed with a large capacity for love. Generally speaking, we crave attention and affection. So maybe, it's not even the person we want to hold on to, it's the familiarity. It's feeling like someone is there for you at the end of the day to hold your hand and tell you that you did a good job. Someone to hug you tight and just be there in comfortable silence. You miss the feeling, not the person.
Why are you holding on? They're gone. They're gone, and they most likely won't come back. And, if they do, it'll be to see if you're doing better than them or if you miss them for a confidence boost. That's not the kind of person you need anymore. Stop paying attention to the people who don't appreciate you anymore. If you actually open your eyes, there are usually people standing right next to you who are willing to give you so much more. These people won't leave you wondering why you weren't good enough.
Like I said, the good news is that the hurt won't last forever. You're sad now and you may be sad for days, or maybe even weeks, but, it will get easier as the days go on. You will realize you don't need them, either, and there was a reason things didn't work out. They were a chapter you needed to read, but now that page needs to be a turned and a new one is going to be started. This is good. New beginnings are actually good. You may miss them now, but this is a chance to reinvent or even find yourself. Who are you without that person? Do you even remember?
