My Stepbrothers Are My Real Brothers And I Don't Know What I'd Do Without Them

My Stepbrothers Are My Real Brothers And I Don't Know What I'd Do Without Them

My stepbrothers and I are real siblings, regardless of blood.


When I was 5 years old, my dad got remarried. This not only came with a stepmom but two stepbrothers. 5-year-old me was not thrilled about this at all. I was spoiled rotten to the core and those days were put to a stop.

Anything and everything was about me, then BOOM, I had to share my toys (not cool dude), my dad, and my house. Prior to this marriage, it was just my dad and I. It was a rough transition, but 20-year-old me is more than grateful!

Michelle Kiehl

A lot of people who have stepsiblings do not think anything of it, let alone consider them to be real siblings. Then there are people like my stepbrothers and me, who consider each other to be real siblings. I remember in high school, kids would say we do not look alike, but that never mattered. They are my brothers regardless of blood and DNA.

A lot of this came from living together for the majority of our lives. Even though our family dynamic was a tad nontraditional, we still consider ourselves to be family. I know they will always have my back and I will always have theirs. We always check up on each other since we began college, and when we are home, it is like we were never apart.

Michelle Kiehl

Sometimes I do not know where I would be without my brothers. All of the evenings working on homework together (they would do my math for me from time to time), brawling over whose turn it is to watch the TV because we all liked different shows, playing hide-and-seek, and the best of all, getting on our parents' last nerve.

All of those things lead to the bonds we have today. It is so fun to think back to when we were younger. Our parents thought we would never get along as adults, yet now we have bonds stronger than those with some of our closest friends.

Having stepbrothers who are practically my real brothers is one of the best things that has happened to me. As I said, they always have my back. If they had never come into my life, it would have just been me as an only child. I am beyond appreciative of them and the bonds I have with each of my brothers.

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I'm Not 'Spoiled,' I Just Won't Apologize For Having Great Parents

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When I tell people that I am the baby of my family, there is always a follow-up question asking if I am spoiled. As I was a child, perhaps the situation was a little different because I did not receive material things but instead got my way or rarely was punished. I was most likely spoiled rotten in that sense, especially by my grandparents. Fast forward to the age of 19 and I can say that my parents give me everything that I need, not necessarily everything that I want.

But I still don't think I'm spoiled.

I might legally be an adult, but my parents still provide for me. I may live at school during the semester, but my parents don't charge me rent or utilities when I am at home. My mom still does my laundry. They pay my phone bill monthly. When my mom goes grocery shopping, she doesn't have me chip in to help. She will make sure the bathroom is stocked with tampons or shampoo so I don't have to worry about it. The both of them make sure I have the sufficient needs to not be hungry, cold, or without shelter.

They do all of these things because they want what is best for me.

While they pay my student loans, I give them money to cover it as well as a little extra each month for different expenses. If we go out to eat, I do offer to pay but often get shut down and end up leaving the tip instead. I help around the house and sometimes make trips to the store for food or cleaning supplies, not asking for money to be paid back.

I have a job that gives me decent hours, but my parents understand that money for a college kid is tough.

I pay for my own luxuries such as makeup, cute clothes, even to get my hair cut. Spoiled is typically defined as "damaged by having been given everything they want." Do I want another dog? Yes. Do I have one? No. Do I want a swimming pool in my backyard? Yes. Do I have one? Again, no. That is because both my mother and father still believe in working for what you want and even their daughter doesn't get a free pass unless it's her birthday or Christmas. Do I still have everything I could ever need? Yes.

My parents do the exact same thing for my brother and sister who are older than I am.

I know if I have a problem, whether it be financial or crucial, I can turn to them for help. A lot of people my age don't have parents like I do and I am extremely grateful for them and everything that they do. Thanks, Mom and Dad.

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Being A Middle Child Prepared Me For Life

According to Urban Dictionary, "the oldest child gets all the awards, the younger gets all the love, and the middle gets nothing."


Middle children typically have low self-esteem, are introverts, have pangs of jealousy, feel unworthy, seek attention and have trust issues.

Hi, I'm Kiley and I'm a middle child.

While growing up, I can definitely say those characteristics, among others, applied to me. However, growing up as a middle child has made me stronger, independent, and ultimately prepared for my life as an adult.

With my independence, I've never had to rely on other people to be there for me or to do things for me, I've become very good at doing that all on my own. Of course, my parents are there for me and always have been. I would say my parents did a better job dealing with me as a middle child than other parents do. With that being said though, there were still times when I had to rely on my own independence. I always remember when we'd go on vacations growing up, it'd be my dad and sister and mom and brother. I would just be in the middle trying to join in on the conversations each pair had. That's changed a little bit now, which I'm grateful for. But I've noticed since I've been away at college, it's starting to show up again since my sister still lives at home and my brother visits more than I do.

I know I have to do more to get noticed, which is why when I was younger I would throw random temper tantrums. But now, I just push myself to achieve my goals and get awards to get noticed. That has always made me extremely hardworking, ambitious, and made me strive more for my own success.

I've never felt like I've had to conform to people's behaviors or beliefs. I'm always on my own, and I know who I am from the countless times I've had to be by myself while my parents and siblings had their own conversations. It's never been hard for me to make friends, if you don't like me, you don't like me, don't worry about it — I've got it all under control.

I've always been a risk-taker, sometimes I do things without thinking (yeah, sometimes that has a VERY negative effect) and I've consistently been open to new things. This has helped me step up so much in my academic career and just in my personal life in general.

Again, my parents do better than a lot of other ones. I would never say I was neglected, or even forgotten about, sometimes I just felt like they didn't know I was all there. But overall, I'm thankful for my parents for making me a middle child. I gained so many skills that have helped me in my life with college, jobs, internships, relationships, etc. So, thanks, mom and dad! I'm a middle child, and I'm pretty freaking great.

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