Embrace the 'New'

Embrace the 'New'

Don't let that one scent keep you down.


That new car smell. New house smell. New baby smell. It is a scent which will stick to your nose like microfibers and signifies more than just an odor. It is a signification of a moment in time where life stood still because you were moving onto the next stage of your performance. New doors were opened, new visions were breeding in the back of your mind, and new realities which come from it pierce themselves into your world as if they were meant to be there. It is the "New". All new things will eventually turn old, but that doesn't mean it is time to throw it to the curb and act as though it wasn't at one point of your life the most important thing in the world.

I am a young woman living in Texas. I walk like a girl, talk like a girl, and most definitely possess the attitude of a girl. The things that are important to me today don't even come close to what was important to me 10 years ago. I went from worrying about my social status as a 9-year-old to worrying about paying my way through college. From complaining about what I wanted for dinner to complaining about the cost of the gas in my car. From seeing the world as something I couldn't wait to jump into… and now I am drowning because I forgot to learn how to swim along the way. I do believe my success is inevitable but the "next" phase that I have found myself in is not what I want to continue calling my reality, and I think I speak for many when I say people will fall, crash, and burn before they realize they have been given the chance to fly.

We are in a world where you can change your identity within minutes if not seconds. You have the power to generate a well-being through what you love to do whether it be playing video games to holding a human heart in your hands. The fall of our generation is that nasty word "can't" which ultimately will make or break your determination and stamina. That one syllable word can break a marriage, kill a dream, or even end a journey. Rather than looking at the past and thinking of every reason something is unattainable, realize that there is always a new moment. New drive, new passions, new ideas and philosophies. People are conquering internal and external battles everyday all because of the progression society is making.

Remember when prom was the most important thing in the world? When you had a bad hair day and you thought it just can't get any worse than this. How you would argue with your mom and automatically think "I just can't wait to move out" or your siblings would tear your clothes and you would act like that was the most important piece of fabric in your possession. We overwork situations because in moments they are the most important and crucial parts of our lives. A girls first heartbreak isn't the end of the world but to her it is EVERYTHING in that moment. When a boy has to be benched for an injury the first thought that pops in their head is I can't get scouted, so my future is done for. We work up situations and forget that life will work itself out so all that happens is we fool ourselves that nothing can change.

10 years ago, being gay could have you killed on a street corner. 50 years ago, women's rights were a joke. 100 years ago interracial relationships were seen as a sin. We are so caught up in trying to forget the past that we forget to look towards the future and all that ends up happening is people confusing the idea of progression with being at a standstill expecting life to happen. Life will continue to "just happen" but if we want our way of life improved then we have to push towards a change and to fall into the new without thinking about what could have or should have been. We think everything will be together tomorrow or a week from now or a year from now, well it isn't going to get better by just thinking about it.

Open your eyes, clear out your ears, taste the motivation, feel the fresh air, and sniff in all of those opportunities because they are there and ready for you whenever you want to grab them. The time is now, and it all starts with one new day. Let it be today.

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You May Have Worn The Prom Dress With Him, But I Get To Wear The Wedding Dress

You had him in high school, but I get him for the rest of my life.

High school seems like the best time of your life when you are in it. You think that all of your friends will be with you until the end, and that you will end up with whoever you are dating your senior year. For very few, that might just be the case. For all others, that is far from true.

You thought that you would marry your boyfriend and you thought that everything would work out how you had always imagined. I don't blame you though. He's great. You wanted everything with him, but you were just not right for him.

I wish I could say that I am sorry it didn't work out for you, but I can't. I can't because he is mine now, and I get to cherish him forever. You didn't do that right, and you were not meant to be together. You will find someone too, but I am happy that you were not the one for him.

Sometimes I have issues with jealousy, and I hate that you got all of the high school stuff with him. You got to go to games and support him. It kills me that I couldn't be there for him because I know I would have actually been there wholeheartedly. I would have done it out of love, not as a popularity appearance.

I hate that you got to go to all of the school dances with him. He got to see you all dressed up and probably told you how great you looked. I'm sure you did look great. Prom dresses were always fun to pick out and so colorful. It was exciting to match colors with your date. I am sure you had fun choosing his matching tux to your dress.

I find myself getting jealous, but then I stop. I am getting to match his tux with our wedding colors. I got to go dress shopping in a sea of white, and he doesn't get to know one detail about that dress yet. He will get to see me walk down the aisle and then every day forever. I get to love him forever.

I try to not get jealous of all of the things you got with him because it is all in the past. You had your time, and now I get the wedding. You got to dress up in high school, but I get to dress up for my wedding with him. He may have put a corsage on your wrist, but he will be putting the wedding ring on my finger.

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I Expected It To Have It All Together By 22 And I'm Still Far From That

What we expected and what reality actually is, are two completely different things...


Oh our 20s, how we expected them to be so different. We expected to graduate college at 22, have a career by 23, be engaged by 24, married with a house by 25, kids by 26-28, vacationing with the family by 30, and retired by 60. We expected college to be parties and cute boys/girls. Instead, we got late nights of studying and crying after a job that barely pays for our car, food, dorm, and textbooks. We get no social life and if we do our grades suffer for it.

Our 20s were expected to be all fun but all we got were struggles and stress. I mean I don't know about you but I expected, to have it all together and I'm nearly 23 and far from it. I had all the scholarships and great grades, and I still don't have any type of degree.

Reality hits after 18. Most of us don't have the help of mom and dad anymore. We have to find our way and make a path for ourselves. Sometimes our dreams and goals have to be put on hold for that. The 20s isn't fun. It's about discovering who you are, who you want to be, and where you want to go. Some of us serve our country, some become incarcerated, some of us parents, some teachers, others cops, others travel or study abroad, some dead, some ill, other managers, others homeless, some still living home, and some even addicts.

The weird thing about your 20s is everyone is doing something different, but yet everyone is confused and comparing themselves to others. People feel if they're not doing what others are doing, in their age group then they have failed themselves. What people forget is that with life comes obstacles and sacrifice and everyone's life and situations are different. You are where you need to be right now, for you, and I think that's something to remember in your 20s.


Another thing about your 20's is you're free to think for yourself now. No more having to follow a religion you dislike or hold back from things you love. The world is literally yours to discover and learn from. Possibilities are endless! I think your 20's are the years you create yourself to the best version of you and build the foundation for your future. Just remember, we all build at our own pace.


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