Embrace the 'New'

Embrace the 'New'

Don't let that one scent keep you down.


That new car smell. New house smell. New baby smell. It is a scent which will stick to your nose like microfibers and signifies more than just an odor. It is a signification of a moment in time where life stood still because you were moving onto the next stage of your performance. New doors were opened, new visions were breeding in the back of your mind, and new realities which come from it pierce themselves into your world as if they were meant to be there. It is the "New". All new things will eventually turn old, but that doesn't mean it is time to throw it to the curb and act as though it wasn't at one point of your life the most important thing in the world.

I am a young woman living in Texas. I walk like a girl, talk like a girl, and most definitely possess the attitude of a girl. The things that are important to me today don't even come close to what was important to me 10 years ago. I went from worrying about my social status as a 9-year-old to worrying about paying my way through college. From complaining about what I wanted for dinner to complaining about the cost of the gas in my car. From seeing the world as something I couldn't wait to jump into… and now I am drowning because I forgot to learn how to swim along the way. I do believe my success is inevitable but the "next" phase that I have found myself in is not what I want to continue calling my reality, and I think I speak for many when I say people will fall, crash, and burn before they realize they have been given the chance to fly.

We are in a world where you can change your identity within minutes if not seconds. You have the power to generate a well-being through what you love to do whether it be playing video games to holding a human heart in your hands. The fall of our generation is that nasty word "can't" which ultimately will make or break your determination and stamina. That one syllable word can break a marriage, kill a dream, or even end a journey. Rather than looking at the past and thinking of every reason something is unattainable, realize that there is always a new moment. New drive, new passions, new ideas and philosophies. People are conquering internal and external battles everyday all because of the progression society is making.

Remember when prom was the most important thing in the world? When you had a bad hair day and you thought it just can't get any worse than this. How you would argue with your mom and automatically think "I just can't wait to move out" or your siblings would tear your clothes and you would act like that was the most important piece of fabric in your possession. We overwork situations because in moments they are the most important and crucial parts of our lives. A girls first heartbreak isn't the end of the world but to her it is EVERYTHING in that moment. When a boy has to be benched for an injury the first thought that pops in their head is I can't get scouted, so my future is done for. We work up situations and forget that life will work itself out so all that happens is we fool ourselves that nothing can change.

10 years ago, being gay could have you killed on a street corner. 50 years ago, women's rights were a joke. 100 years ago interracial relationships were seen as a sin. We are so caught up in trying to forget the past that we forget to look towards the future and all that ends up happening is people confusing the idea of progression with being at a standstill expecting life to happen. Life will continue to "just happen" but if we want our way of life improved then we have to push towards a change and to fall into the new without thinking about what could have or should have been. We think everything will be together tomorrow or a week from now or a year from now, well it isn't going to get better by just thinking about it.

Open your eyes, clear out your ears, taste the motivation, feel the fresh air, and sniff in all of those opportunities because they are there and ready for you whenever you want to grab them. The time is now, and it all starts with one new day. Let it be today.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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Cancel Culture Is Toxic And Ugly

Stop deciding for me who I can and cannot like.


I was really hoping that canceled culture died in 2018, but unfortunately here we are in 2019 still "canceling" whoever we personally deem "problematic." Whether it's tweeting from six years ago or falsely made allegations, waves of people will grab on to anything they can to bring down whatever celebrity or influencer seems to be doing well at the moment.

Of course, it is important to bring light to horrible things such as racism, misogyny, domestic abuse, etc., but remember these horrible things are still happening TODAY. We need to focus our energy on combating the horrible things people are currently doing and saying; it is truly such a waste of time to bring up the problematic words and actions that someone in the limelight did almost a decade ago.

Let me be clear, there is no one person I am trying to defend here. I honestly don't care much to personally defend anyone who is being canceled by angry twitter-users who found something just bad enough to hold against them for eternity. I truly just find the idea of it annoying and ugly.

The idea that any person is a completely static, flat character is so inconceivable and unlikely that I truly have a hard time understanding why we cannot accept an apology from a matured person.

If we have no evidence that a person has made any recent damaging remarks, then how can we prove they haven't changed since they tweeted something wrong in 2013?

Of course, there are people who have recently or continuously proven they are indecent people who are not deserving of any sort of public exposure, but if they are truly so horrible, people will drop them without you having to tell them to do so. You don't have to condemn those who still remain loyal; they are probably not the kind of people you need to waste your time on anyway.

If the people canceling others were constantly watched like the people they have damned, I am absolutely sure there is something we could find from their past to cancel them as well.

Sometimes it is hard to remember that famous people are still human beings just like us. Anyone is prone to make mistakes, and those mistakes can absolutely be rectified over time.

Nowadays, people love jumping on the bandwagon of finding a new person to hate and don't even stop to think about the damage it could do to that person's life and reputation.

Give people a chance to prove that they are decent human beings before deciding whether "we" as a whole should love or hate them based on such a small amount of evidence.

I am not saying you have to love every celebrity. If you don't like what someone has said or done you absolutely do not have to give them your attention or devotion, but you should not tell me whether I can like them or not.

In 2019 we should put an end to canceled culture, and, instead, learn to take people at their word and accept their apologies for their past wrongdoings.

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