Stop Questioning Everything In Your Life And Start Following Your Own Life Path

Stop Questioning Everything In Your Life And Start Following Your Own Life Path

Everyone's life path is different and happens for a reason

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Recently, my roommate and I were talking about our different paths in life and whether we believe we all have a life plan. For as long as I can remember, I have been a strong believer in my life path. I believe things are thrown into our lives for a reason to either teach us a lesson, make us a stronger person, or change the way we see things.

Growing up I had a pretty average childhood until I was about 16. At 16, I was diagnosed with Crohn's disease. For about 5 years I struggled badly with my disease. I was constantly getting sick, losing weight, missing school, and becoming depressed because I felt so terrible all of the time. Finally, when I turned 21, I had to have my first major surgery. Before the initial surgery, I was never upset about the situation because I knew it had to happen.

At one point my parents said something that really stuck with me. They said, "You're strong, that's why this is happening to you". In a more detailed version of what they said, I was the one who had to face this because I was strong enough to face this major life event and life change. Whereas others might not be able to face it.

I believe it was in my life path to have this disease. It has not been a negative part of my life in the least. If anything it has shaped who I am in the last few years and taught me to educate people about invisible illnesses and advocate for those diseases.

I also believe that in our life path we are meant to be so many new people. Those people may or may not stay in your life forever. Whether they help you during a hard time, teach you an important lesson, or shape your life in any small way. Those people were meant to step into your life and be around for you.

For many people, this whole concept of a life path may not be something you agree with or even understand. Which is okay, everyone believes in different things. But, have you ever stopped and sat down to think about the timeline of events in your life and how they have panned out. Were those events ironic? Did people come and go into your life and teach you something?

I know for myself, I have met so many amazing and important people who have shaped me into the person today. I have also met some not so amazing people who have taught me important lessons in my life which have also shaped me into the person I am today.

Whether you agree with everyone having a life path or not, take some time to time to think about your life each day things come and go. Try not to put a timeline on your life and try and go with the flow and see how things happen organically. You never know what could happen.

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10 Things I Learned When My Best Friend Got Pregnant In High School

In this world where you can be anything: be a friend (and be a good one).

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Life: full of amazing, unforeseen circumstances. How you roll with the punches only reveals your strength.
True friends are like diamonds: bright, beautiful, valuable, and always in style." -Nicole Richie

I remember when I first heard the big news. I didn't want to believe it. My heart dropped. I was worried for you. What would happen? How would you get through this? Nothing we knew would ever be the same. Our world was about to change forever. I recalled the verse Isaiah 41:10, "Do not be afraid, for I am with you." I knew God was with you and would always be. I knew God needed me to be here for you, no matter what.

Turns out, you had this all in the bag. You handled everything with grace and dignity. You were strong even on your hardest days. You were overwhelmed with faith and you inspired me with your perseverance through the hardest times. I could not be more proud of who you became because of the cards you were dealt.

To Meaghan: I love you. I'm always here, no matter where. Hudson is so lucky to have you.

Here's what I learned from you and your sweet baby boy:

1. Contrary to popular belief, it is NOT the end of the world

Start making plans for the future. Pick out clothes, decorations, and toys. Help with all the madness and preparation. She would do the same for you. Plus, 9 p.m. runs to Toys-R-Us just to buy the baby some socks (because you do not know the gender yet) is always a good idea. You have to focus on the big picture. Life doesn't stop even when you want to.

2. No matter how much you want to freak out, remain calm

Getting unexpected news is never easy to hear. If needed, cry. Cry until you cannot anymore. Then, get up and be strong, she needs you. Be flexible (You want to come over to hang out? Right now? No, I'm not in the middle of ten thousand things, come on over). Be available (yes, even for her 3 a.m. insomnia calls just to see "what's up?") "Meaghan, why are you even awake right now?"

3. Radiate positivity. Always. 

This is an emotional time. The LAST thing she needs is someone bringing her down. "No, honey, you're glowing!" "You do not look fat in that bikini!!" "You are rocking that baby bump!" "Oh, that's your the third day in a row you're eating a Sonic burger for lunch? You go girl!"

4. Be ready for all the times: happy, confusing, stressful, sad, (but mostly) exciting

Mixed emotions are so hard, but look for the silver lining. With your support, she will be strong.

"Who knew picking out the brand of diapers to buy was so stressful?"

5. This world is a scary place. You never want to be all alone, so don't be. 

Like the song says, we, really do, all need someone to lean on. Just being there for someone goes a long way. "Meaghan what the heck are you doing in MY bed? How long have you been here?"

6. Lean on God. His plan is greater than we could ever imagine. 

When you don't know where to go, or who to turn to, pray! Pray for the burdens you feel. Pray for the future. Pray for patience. Pray for the ability to not grow weary. Pray for a heart of compassion. Pray. Pray. Pray.

7. Something we never knew we needed. 

Some of the best things in life are things we never knew we needed. Who knows where we would be without this sweet face?

"Hudson say Lib. Libby. L-- Come ON!" "CAT!" "Okay, that works too."

8. "Mother knows best"...is accurate, whether you believe it or not

Turns out, seventeen-year-olds don't know how to plan baby showers. Our moms have been there, done that. They want to be involved just as much as we do, so let them! Listen to their guidance. After all, they're professionals.

9. There will *almost always* be a "better way" of doing something...but, be a cheerleader, not a critic 

This is something many people struggle with in general, but it is not your DNA, it is not your place to be a critic. Let her raise her own baby. You are there to be a friend, not a mentor. ****Unless she's about to name the baby something absolutely terrible -- for the love of that baby, don't let her name that kid something everyone hates.

10.  At the end of the day, it's not what you have or what you know; rather, it is all about who you love and those who love you

Life has adapted, but for the better. We grew up, learned, and became stronger. All the while, we stayed friends every step of the way. We still have the same fun and most definitely, the same laughs.

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It's About Time We Just Let Time Pass

Our culturally-conditioned obsession with time is a limiting force of oppression, but when we stop trying to control time, we somehow have more of it on our hands.

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When I ran cross country and track and field in high school, having a digital watch was damn near essential to being on the team. You could get away with not having one, but the coaching staff would shout condescendingly about how you didn't care about the sport or weren't "captain material." Disregarding their comments, we needed the watches for their stopwatch function, so we could time and evaluate our workouts and races. Besides races and workouts, we also used them on our runs, stretches, core exercises, and icing routines. A watch really serves as a runner's swiss army knife, a versatile tool that gets them out of any messy situation and keeps them on the ground running.

That reliance on a watch got me wearing one all day and night, making its absence all the more jarring. When I broke my watch about a year ago and couldn't get a replacement for a couple months, I began to acknowledge how much time controls how I lived life.

Perhaps that sounds dramatic. After all, couldn't I just check the time on my phone or laptop or any of the hundred other sources that tell time? That's true, but the convenience of a watch, which merely requires a flick of the wrist to check, whereas lifting a phone to your face is a somewhat more cumbersome act that—although nearly effortless—still can't compete with a watch. The phone's clock also competes with all your notifications to grab your attention, while the simple interface of a digital watch is much more direct. When I couldn't use my watch, the loss of such utter convenience made time seem a more distant force that had less importance to me. Call me lazy if you want, but I just didn't care about the time as much.

How exactly could a watch control someone's life? Well, since our society itself is structured around the understanding of time, we obey its passage and are subject to its every whim. Whether you're heading to class, planning a work schedule, or getting dinner with a friend, everything is based on the time. It doesn't seem so sinister on the surface, but our obedience of time can feel like an inevitable oppression. Think about all those times you wanted time to fly by during class or when you wanted time to freeze while with a friend and the opposite effect would always occur. Frantically checking your watch amplifies that temporal discomfort, so imagine how someone with their watch, which also has the date of the month, timer, and alarm function, would be yoked by time's harsh reins. Constantly checking the time like a freshman who's had two shots of espresso too many might drive him a little bit crazy.

Now imagine how I, an avid watch-wearer, would cope with suddenly not having that power at all times. It was incredibly disorienting at first to not have time tied to my wrist, and it was certainly embarrassing to get caught looking at my empty wrist when someone asked what date it was. Yet this experience gradually liberated me from my reliance on my watch. I slowly accepted that the time of day didn't really matter in my daily routine. When I had my watch, I'd intermittently check to see if time would obey my beck and call, but when I lacked that power, I simply allowed time to run its course, letting minutes turn into hours. In this counterintuitive acceptance of time's predominance, I didn't gain control of time itself, but I learned to control how I reacted to and worked within its grasp. I could deal with being a minute or two late to class or have my coach scold me; I was free from the repression of fast and slow time and given the tools to merely enjoy the time allotted to me.

As I run now, I only look at my new watch once I'm done running. I don't let the run duration command what I do as I just adjust my plan based off of how I feel. The clock's ticks and tocks are an assumed background melody rather than a malicious metronome counting down to my demise. And every now and then, when I've got a lot of time on my hands—and wrist—I set my watch down and purposefully ignore the clocks on my devices to just let time work its hidden magic.

There's enough time in the world for the events that need to happen to occur, and they'll come when the time is right. You just need to watch out for them.

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