Yeah, yeah, yeah, we all know breakups suck, but unless you've been through it before, you truly don't understand just how bad they can get. One of the worst parts about a breakup is the fact that it generally hits the girl before it hits the guy. When the girl is sitting at home crying and heartbroken for 2-3 weeks, the guy is going around acting like he's fine and nothing even happened. Stupid, right?? Anyway, a few weeks down the road, she finally finds her strength and she realizes all she needs to be happy is herself. Now... as I mentioned earlier, the first couple weeks aren't so easy, and here is why:
Stage 1: She's in denial. She can't believe that they are actually broken up, so the next 24 hours she holds out hope that it was just a fight and things will be back to normal tomorrow.
Stage 2: She's constantly sick to her stomach. She realizes this isn't just a “fight" and finally accepts the fact that it's over. She can't eat, she can sleep, and the things that used to make her happy just don't anymore. EVERYTHING she does reminds her of him. She could quite literally be walking down the steps of her own home and think about that time last week when he kissed her on those same steps. She could be watching a commercial for Buffalo Wild Wings and remember when they went there for the first time and he complained that the mild wings were too spicy. Seriously though, stupid stuff like that. EVERYTHING reminds her of him.
Stage 3: She tries to fake her happiness and convince everyone that she is “living her best life". She starts posting stuff on Twitter and Instagram telling the world how “happy" she is which is dumb, because she's still miserable. The sad part is that out of everyone seeing those posts there is only one person she hope sees it... if you guessed her newly ex boyfriend, you are correct!
Stage 4: Despite the fact that she unfollowed him on every form of social media, she finally stops checking up on him and wondering what he is doing/who he is talking to. She accepts the comfort from her friends and family, and finally begins to find her happiness again. By this time, she is seeing all of the negative things she was blinded by when they were together. Eventually, she is at peace reminiscing on the good memories because they don't make her sad anymore.
Stage 5: She found herself again and now she is dangerous, because she is back and better than ever.
The world may seem like it stops and you don't remember who you are anymore. Things DO get better and life does go on. The most important thing to remember is just because you love someone doesn't mean they're supposed to be in your life forever, sometimes they are supposed to be in your life temporarily to show you who you really are and what you really want. Some relationships are just meant to be a learing lesson that is eventually going to lead you somewhere bigger and better.
