Nothing is more annoying than being in a relationship with someone who doesn't give you enough space to breathe, when your ex doesn't leave you alone, or when someone you haven't had any history with won't take a hint. If you are any of the following, it is probably time to calm down. Here is how to find out if you're over-obsessing over a person (or you're the one being obsessed with).
1. Texting novels
It should be pretty obvious when you are typing out novels to a person, and only receiving a few words as an answer. No one really wants to read a message that long, if they did they would pick up a book. Sending long text messages is not going to get you further in a relationship, but it will, in fact, push the person away. This also goes for people who aren't in a relationship. Don't scare a person that early on ...
2. The constant need to be around them
I understand when you're really into someone, spending as much time with them as possible is fun. But after a while, you should probably expand your horizons. If you find yourself getting upset when he or she has plans with their friends, relax. Spending time away from each other is a good thing. Girl time and guy time is really important in any relationship.
3. Phone and social media bombs
It is one thing to send a few texts here and there, but if you are consistently texting or Facebook messaging a person, and not receiving an answer I have a thought for you - stop! They are getting every message you're sending, don't worry. But they are choosing (whatever the reason may be) to ignore you. Calling and leaving voicemails doesn't help either. If they wanted to talk to you in the first place, they would have answered your text message. Take a hint.
4. The EX factor
Break-ups suck, whether you are the dumpee or the dumper. Being broken up with is awful, especially if you obviously do not feel the same way. Don't be that person to send countless amounts of text messages every single day about how much you miss them, or reminding them of things you use to do together. You are not making that person miss you, you're just being annoying and a little pathetic. Understood you're hurting inside, but save it for your diary. Your ex doesn't need to get 15 text messages an hour about how they "don't care anymore" or about "how is it so easy to carry on with their life, as if nothing happened." Knock it off. The relationship has ended and it's time to move forward.
5. The confused
Being into someone is one thing, but being nice is another. Just because you had one nice conversation with said person a few times, doesn't mean they're into you. If you see someone start texting, calling or becoming overly obsessed with you more and more, chances are they mistook your kindness for something way more. Now not to say you shouldn't be nice to people, but just be wary of those who mistake kindness for a little something more.
