How To Spot A Bad Friend

How To Spot A Bad Friend

Keep an eye out for those bringing you down.
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Sometimes a friendship may feel like it has more downs than ups. It may feel very one sided and seem like you're really doing all the work that goes into keeping a friendship.

Keep an eye out for these things:

They only give non-apology apologies.

If you're hurt by something, they'll say things like "I'm sorry you feel that way", "I'm sorry you found out", where it should be "I'm sorry I hurt your feelings", "I'm sorry I said that".

They're never there when you need them.

You're there to answer the phone at any hour when they get upset about a boy that doesn't like them back, but when you reach out to them about a crisis you're having, they never seem to be around.

They don't make time for you.

A friendship is a two-way street. Even if it's having a fifteen minute coffee break together once a month, that one-on-one time is really crucial for a stable friendship. They say they "can't" fit you into their busy schedule. It's about making time, not having time.

You have to compete for their attention.

Group gatherings are hard, especially when it's the first time you've seen them in a while. You can't seem to get them to stick around for a short conversation; their attention always seems to drift away from you. If you are spending time together, they're much more focused on what's happening on their phone than what the two of you are doing.

They make your feelings seem invalid.

Everyone is entitled to have their own feelings. They'll put you down for being upset about something that "isn't a big deal" to them. Back to the non-apologies, they're more sorry that you took their words to heart than they are about saying them.

They judge you.

Whether it's what you're wearing, the person you're dating, or the activity you're involved in, they always seem to come up with something that just puts you down about it.


Friendships can be hard. If you find yourself in a bad friendship, stand up for yourself! Tell it like it is! You deserve so much better.

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Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.


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To My Ex-Best Friend

Everything doesn’t last forever!

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In the beginning, it was a great friendship! I thought it was going to last for years and even forever. I could see you being a part of my future like being a part of my wedding, around my children, etc.

There were different signs in the beginning, but I never wanted to pay attention to them. I kept making excuses for situations I knew was wrong.

I had never had a friend like you before, so I wanted to maintain it.

Little did I know, it wasn't a friendship that I needed to stay in. It constantly felt like a full-time job trying to be your friend, and it often seemed like you never appreciated it.

There were many reasons that made me come to the conclusion that this was not a friendship that needed to last for too long.

1. I was always the one that initiated for us to hang out

2. Once you got another boyfriend, you acted like you no longer needed a friend anymore

3. You constantly put me on the back burner until you needed something or someone to talk to

4. Our friendship constantly made me feel like I was on an emotional roller coaster

5. I wouldn't miss talking to you whenever we would stop talking because you were rude to me

  • If I can stop talking to you easily and not miss you, then that means our friendship wasn't that significant as I thought it was.
  • I don't hate you, and I don't resent you. In fact, I thank you and appreciate what you did. Although it didn't end well, I still got to experience having a close friend for a period of time. Because of you, I also know what I want in a friend and what I won't tolerate in a friendship!

    I wish nothing but the best for you, and I hope you find a friend just like you!

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