I Spent Valentine's Day Alone and Loved It

I Spent Valentine's Day Alone and Loved It

Being comfortable with being on your own is the move this 2019. That doesn't always mean being single, but for me it did and I felt more content than I have on any other Valentine's Day.


With the release of Ariana Grande's "thank u, next" studio album, compact with anthem upon anthem about being independent, I felt like being single on Valentine's Day was not such a bad idea especially this year.

Our generation is interesting because I feel like now more than ever, we realize the power of independence. Not that being or falling in love is a bad thing that should be shamed, because it's not, but neither is being single. For at least the past three years, I have been dating someone during Hallmark's February holiday and I just wanted to know: what would it be like to spend Valentine's Day single?

I suppose one could see it as simply just another day, but I saw it as an opportunity to take myself out, show myself a good time. This year has been one of personal growth and reflection for me and honestly, it's nice to be alone for a change. It's refreshing and new - I have been feeling emotionally spent for some time now. Being single in a new state, in a new city, has changed that.

In the morning, my friends and I sent each other those online Valentine's Day cards people meme on Twitter and post. I bought myself a necklace from work that I had been wanting (it has a small heart-shaped pendant, convenient for the holiday) and along with a small rose quartz in the shape of a heart. I also bought myself a pizookie from BJ's Brewhouse and went home. I put on some sweats, something I haven't been able to do on Valentine's Day in a long time, and watched my favorite movies while eating my dessert in a face mask. Sounds pretty average, maybe lonely right? I have to disagree.

It's all about perspective in my opinion. For me, spending quality time with myself and growing who I am before settling down is important. I'd rather spend a few Valentine's Days alone than many with someone who I'd either forget about in five or so years, someone that wasn't the person I fell in love while mentally and emotionally healthy and ready. Again, that's just how I feel personally. I know I am not ready for commitment. If you think I am not the number one fan of my friends that are in healthy relationships though, you'd be sorely mistaken.

All in all, I just want to say take a day for yourself sometime this year. Go for a hike, go to a restaurant or cafe you haven't been to, learn how to cook. There's so much to learn about yourself and so much spiritual and mental healing that can be done in just a few hours in your life where you don't feel like you have to be present anywhere but you're own mind. You might discover how great it is to be alone, even if it's just for a day. And the best thing about it? You don't have to be single to do it.

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Why I Spend So Much Time With My Boyfriend

And I love it!

Many people think that spending too much time with your significant other is a bad thing. I think that wanting to spend time with them is a blessing. Don't get me wrong, we do not spend every waking minute together. We make sure that we save time for our friends and family, but in the end, we cherish our time together.

He brings out the best in me. When I first met my boyfriend, I knew he was something special. I didn't know what it was, but I knew that it would be important someday. I found out that when I am with him, I am an all-around happier person. I look at things in different ways, and I now know a whole new world of people. He has helped me overcome obstacles that have been holding me back for quite some time.

We enjoy each others company. I can't even begin to tell you how many times we have just sat in silence simply knowing that you are in the company of someone who loves you is comforting. He makes things that would usually be boring a lot more fun. When we do homework together, he makes the work seem like it's not work, and things like a simple trip to Walmart ends up being a comedy show.

We are best friends. Many people say that they are best friends with their significant other. For us, it's true. I can tell him anything. There is no hiding things in our relationship; we come right out and say what we want to say.

He pushes me to succeed. Whether it is with weight loss or homework, he holds me accountable. When I start a new workout, he keeps me on track to be whom I want to be. We make sure that we put homework before going out and that helps us in the long run. Giving up that pizza can be easy when you are spending time with someone you love.

He makes life seem not so hard. College can be hard and make life difficult. It seems that I always have something new happening or another meeting to attend. When I get stressed or overwhelmed, he makes sure that I take the time to put into perspective what really matters and focus on that. And when that fails, we go get McDonald's.

He supports me. He has never once told me that one of my ideas was stupid or out of reach. Whenever something new comes up that I think would be exciting, he is the first one to rally behind me and let me know that it is a good idea (even if it's not).

I love him. Love is a strong word, but I can honestly say I have never felt like this before. Between everything that he does for me, I do just as much for him simply because I love seeing him happy. Spending so much time together isn't hard to do because we love each other. If somewhere down the road we decide to split ways, I will still love him and he will still love me. That will never go away.

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