Ever since I was little, I remember being so enamored with the concept of finding your soulmate.

The idea that somewhere in this world there was someone else perfectly designed for another, two people brought together by destiny itself. That someone would "complete me".

As I grew older, I continued to believe in a magical idea. Even continuing to support the concept when I was with my long-term boyfriend of seven years. But as we have gotten older, and since gotten married last year, admittedly a lot has changed.

Let me be real with you right now and put this out there. Taking on the world's joys and troubles with one person for the rest of your life is difficult.

"Although I credit the good Lord's Grace for blessing me with my marriage, I don't think there's some underlying supernatural force pushing me to continue to be with him..."

When I say this, I don't mean difficult in regards to faithfulness, but instead addressing the natural fact that dealing with the same person, and allllll the glorious same things, all the time can at times, become trying. Really freakin' trying.

Learning the now changed dynamic of my relationship, now both of us functioning as married, independent adults with our own home, bills, etc., I realized the concept or ideology of soulmates is not what motivates me to push through these "hard" times.

Although I credit the good Lord's Grace for blessing me with my marriage and my man, I don't think there's some underlying supernatural force pushing me to continue to be with him.

I know he doesn't complete me, and I know I don't him. We take the entirety of ourselves and work for the success and growth that we want to see within our own lives and the one that we built together.

And although the magic fairytale idea of soulmates that I dreamt about for so long as a young girl is now entirelysquashed, in truth what makes me the happiest is knowing that I work hard at my relationship and choose it every day, as does he.