For some people, the word “sorry” just isn’t apart of their vocabulary. You could have a million and one reasons to prove your position and you could have a dozen of other people say they agree with you, but it still wouldn’t be enough to make them own up to their faults or apologize. When you find yourself in a situation with this type of person, I can safely say from my own experiences, the best thing you could ever do is let it go.
As hard as that may seem, especially if you’re someone like me who is all about fairness, it is most important to hold back every ounce of pride you have. Years ago I used to feel the need to argue until I was blue in the face, just to hear somebody say “you’re right I’m sorry.” I’ve learned that all that did was waste my precious time. Whether it was a few hours, or the argument lasted a few days, it was simply exhausting.
Trying to explain yourself can become draining because a sad truth is that sometimes people truly only hear what they want to hear. In the end, after all the arguing and repeating myself, I’ve realized the outcome was the same when I did or didn’t get an apology. This is because an apology doesn’t always mean someone is actually sorry, understands what upset you, or sees the wrong in what they’ve done. Just like myself, you probably can’t fathom how a person like that could exist, right?! How easy does it seem to just say those two tiny words “I’m sorry!” But deep down, this isn’t what we really want. What we want is for someone to seriously understand our point of view, and that isn’t always what happens.
What we often fail to realize is that the words “I’m sorry” doesn’t always equal fulfillment, and that goes for being right. Sometimes, you will feel this itch to stoop down to someone else’s level but I can assure you that when it’s all said and done you will regret it later on. The biggest fulfillment you will have is going to sleep every night knowing you didn’t let the problem get the best of you or make you act in ways you normally wouldn’t. This is the hardest thing of all, to be what they call a “bigger person," when all you can think about doing is sticking it to someone. I am definitely not saying to be a doormat or let anyone take advantage of you.
What I mean by being a “bigger person,” is that we should take a step back and ask ourselves, “Is it worth it?” Instead of instantly lashing out, being aggressive back to someone, or starting an argument, we should be strong. We should make sure before we face a challenge, that we aren’t going to suffer more inside by holding on or wasting time trying to prove ourselves right. It takes a well-rounded, powerful person to show strength like this. Taking the high road in some situations will bring you to a bigger and better place in your life. You will see that letting go can be one of the most peaceful experiences you will ever have!
