If you're anything like me, you’re disgusted with the “Starbucks cup controversy.” As a religious girl who LOVES Christmas, it is easy to recognize that this holiday is about much more than what you drink your coffee out of. Although the media makes it hard to see, there’s something much bigger we need to focus on. Let’s turn all this drama and passion into love and give it to those who have lost someone this year.

I have recently learned that the first year without your loved one is the hardest. Christmas, although it amplifies love and joy, can also bring out loneliness and despair. Christmas is a time for family and having someone you love not present is not an easy thing. Their lack of presence is intensified and it is no wonder that sadness may enter our hearts. Whether you have accepted that they're in a better place, or time has not begun to heal your heart, love during the Christmas season is something every family needs. The media recently has diverted our attention to petty controversies that are the opposite of what Christmas is about and it is clear it takes from the support and love we should all be giving each other.

So, next time you look at your Christmas Starbucks cup and you are “personally offended” or “outraged”, direct your energy towards something more useful. Remember those who are hurting this holiday season. Pray for them and keep their happiness and healing process in the front of your mind, taking the place of a red cup filled with coffee.