Some new New Year's Resolutions

Some new New Year's Resolutions

Not your average resolutions...

Everyone starts their year off with a promise to go to the gym, eat better, be nicer, or whatever other way they think they can change their lives this year. New year, new you, right? Unfortunately, most people don't really follow through with these resolutions and give up within the month. This kind of defeats the purpose of the resolution though, why promise you're going to better yourself if you don't put in the effort to do so? I've never really been one for making resolutions, partly because I'm perfect and also because I know I won't stick with them. This year is different though, instead of the usual "work out more" resolution, I want to make a promise to change things about myself that actually matter, not just my dress size. My resolution this year is to change the way I see myself and the way I act on a day to day basis. I figured the best way to do this is to share it with others, now that it's in writing and you all have read it, it makes it harder for me to give up.

For me, the biggest obstacle I hope to over come in 2016 is feeling so self conscious. Often times I find I don't enjoy the moment enough because I'm too caught up in my own head. Instead of worrying about what other people are thinking about you, focus more on what you think about yourself. If you feel confident, it shows and it changes the way other people see you. This is something I have been trying to do for a while and have been getting a lot better with. Sure, I don't wake up every morning and look in the mirror thinking, "Wow, I'm amazing." Does anyone? There will always be days when you're going to feel less than 100% but the goal for the upcoming year is to just keep thinking about those better days and knowing the feeling will pass.

Another good resolution to make this year is to sign up for new things. Often times, I don't like leaving my comfort zone and won't try something new unless I have someone to do it with me. That's a ridiculous way to live life because if I base all of my decisions on other people, I'll never know what I like for myself. By doing things on your own, you allow yourself to meet new people who share similar interests with you. Staying in your comfort zone will eventually get boring, so it's better to expand your horizons and find out what you never knew you could do.

Building on that, talking to new people and really getting to know them is another way to broaden your horizons. I'm not saying stop random people on campus and force conversation upon them, but if someone you don't know sits next to you in class, be friendly! You never know what kind of person someone is until you get to know them. Some of my best friends are people who, upon first meeting, I never thought I would be friends with. But now, I can't imagine NOT being friends with them. Actually talking to people and really listening to what they have to say can be really surprising. Making a real connection with people can change your whole outlook on things.

Finally, and in my opinion, the most important resolution: to dance more. Whenever you have the chance, just dance. This is something I learned this year, after so many parties of awkwardly bobbing in the corner I realized I would have way more fun if I just danced, so I did. Turns out those nights where I just dance like crazy are always the best nights. Have fun for yourself and don't worry about everyone else in the room. I promise you'll be way happier at the end of the night and it's also a KILLER workout.

When it comes to making New Year's resolutions, it's better to commit yourself to something you actually want to do or change. If it's something you care about, you're more likely to stick with it past February. Make every day count because you know how quickly time flies, you might as well make the most of it.

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When You Give A Girl A Dad

You give her everything

They say that any male can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad. That dads are just the people that created the child, so to speak, but rather, dads raise their children to be the best they can be. Further, when you give a little girl a dad, you give her much more than a father; you give her the world in one man.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a rock.

Life is tough, and life is constantly changing directions and route. In a world that's never not moving, a girl needs something stable. She needs something that won't let her be alone; someone that's going to be there when life is going great, and someone who is going to be there for her when life is everything but ideal. Dads don't give up on this daughters, they never will.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a role model.

If we never had someone to look up to, we would never have someone to strive to be. When you give a little girl someone to look up to, you give her someone to be. We copy their mannerisms, we copy their habits, and we copy their work ethic. Little girls need someone to show them the world, so that they can create their own.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her the first boy she will ever love.

And I'm not really sure someone will ever be better than him either. He's the first guy to take your heart, and every person you love after him is just a comparison to his endless, unmatchable love. He shows you your worth, and he shows you what your should be treated like: a princess.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her someone to make proud.

After every softball game, soccer tournament, cheerleading competition, etc., you can find every little girl looking up to their dads for their approval. Later in life, they look to their dad with their grades, internships, and little accomplishments. Dads are the reason we try so hard to be the best we can be. Dads raised us to be the very best at whatever we chose to do, and they were there to support you through everything. They are the hardest critics, but they are always your biggest fans.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a credit card.

It's completely true. Dads are the reason we have the things we have, thank the Lord. He's the best to shop with too, since he usually remains outside the store the entire time till he is summoned in to forge the bill. All seriousness, they always give their little girls more than they give themselves, and that's something we love so much about you.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a shoulder to cry on.

When you fell down and cut yourself, your mom looked at you and told you to suck it up. But your dad, on the other hand, got down on the ground with you, and he let you cry. Then later on, when you made a mistake, or broke up with a boy, or just got sad, he was there to dry your tears and tell you everything was going to be okay, especially when you thought the world was crashing down. He will always be there to tell you everything is going to be okay, even when they don't know if everything is going to be okay. That's his job.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a lifelong best friend.

My dad was my first best friend, and he will be my last. He's stood by me when times got tough, he carried me when I just couldn't do it anymore, and he yelled at me when I deserved it; but the one thing he has never done was give up on me. He will always be the first person I tell good news to, and the last person I ever want to disappoint. He's everything I could ever want in a best friend and more.

Dads are something out of a fairytale. They are your prince charming, your knight in shinny amour, and your fairy godfather. Dads are the reasons we are the people we are today; something that a million "thank you"' will never be enough for.

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College Can Be Difficult, But Trust Yourself, Girl

Life can throw you curveballs sometimes, and times can get tough, but it is SO important to pick yourself up and trust that you can do anything.


I'll be honest, this school year was one of the hardest years of my life. There were lots of moments throughout the year that I just wanted to go home and get away from it all. I had to be reminded that I have been raised to try as hard as you possibly can, and I was doing that. It took some determination and time, but I didn't give up.

No matter how bad I felt, I stayed and persevered.

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Through all the tears and change all around me, I decided to proceed to the finish line because I am NOT a quitter.

I decided that it was time for me to allow myself to fully, undeniably be me. I wanted to start doing the little things I enjoy again like working out, taking pictures, and simply just going out to do anything. I started forcing myself to take any opportunity that came my way, and it helped. One of the things that brought me so much joy was kickboxing – talk about therapeutic, people! Kickboxing at least three times a week helped my mood shift so much, and it was a start to seeing me again. I am so blessed with friends who would come over at, literally, any time of the day. Spending time with them helped me more than they could ever know. We did anything from just hanging out in my living room to splurging on a fun dinner. Through everything that I was doing daily, I was learning how to rely on myself. Looking back now, I have never really had to know what it felt like to rely mainly on myself. I did get so much help from my family and friends, but what good could their help do if I didn't want to help myself first?

Even though I felt like this was one of the worst years of my life, it taught me so much more than I ever expected. Looking back now, I grew so, so much. I learned how to smile when times get tough. I learned that it really is okay to not be okay sometimes, and it will be okay eventually. I learned that it's okay to ask for help because we weren't made to do life alone. Most importantly, I learned how to trust myself. My hope for anyone reading this, you will learn from my experience that the worst seasons get better. I am in such a good place right now because I never gave up, and I will continue to never give up. In a short amount of time, I am seeing how far I have come and how much I grew.

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