Social Media's Pressure Of Perfection

Social Media's Pressure Of Perfection

It's all about the ideal you versus the real you.
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Everyone is connected to some type of social media. It's pretty inevitable in this day and age. And no matter how many times you claim you aren't addicted to it, you're probably trying to cover up the fact that you check your Instagram every five seconds to see who else liked your latest selfie or picture of your Mediterranean flatbread from Panera. The question at heart is, why are we posting about all of these things for everyone else to see, instead of simply enjoying the moment of what we're doing. Is it a true depiction of who we are?

Certain people truly wear their heart on their sleeve by religiously posting everything that occurs during their day:

You hiked to the top of Mount Washington? You just have to Instagram the view.

You saw five of your friends at a party you already knew they were going to? Put it on your 115-second long Snapchat story.

You have two exams and a paper due tomorrow? Procrastinate even more by posting how much you don't want to do any of the work.

The cycle continues. Personal business becomes the world's business to marvel at by tweeting and snapchatting left and right about where they are, who they're with, and what they're doing. It's almost as if there's a subconscious part of humans that need and desire the attention and the perception that we're always having an incredible time. But that's not how life actually works. There's negative weighed in with the positive, but no one wants to post about that on their Facebook profiles, because everything is supposed to constantly be sunshine and rainbows. Right?

Besides, everyone and their mother knowing what friends and strangers seem to be doing is not always accurate. In fact, it's never 100% accurate. Social media commonly creates a false perception of who people are and what their lives are actually like. This causes viewers to have low self-esteem, feelings of being left out or that they are not investing enough of themselves, and can even lead to extremes such as cyber-bullying and depression.

There are parts of ourselves that we want people to see, and then there are others we shelter from the eye of the Internet. Social media depicts an idea of the type of positive, everything-is-awesome type of people we aspire to be, but it's not like that in reality. We want the world to see that we are happy, always doing adventurous, fulfilling activities, and that we're on top of the world. We edit our lives and cut out the real parts, only focusing on the ideal parts of who and what we wish we could be.

There are three things to keep in mind while posting on social networks:

1. The number of likes you get on a picture, favorites on your tweet, and comments on your status in no way define who you are as a person. You are just as beautiful inside and out with ten likes on a profile picture instead of 10,000.

2. Quit comparing yourself to others on the Web, because it's only a false sense of self they're promoting to the world, too. Eliminate the perfect ideals and focus on what's real.

3. Instead of focusing on what everyone else is doing, remain focused on your own goals and ambitions. Stay true to the type of person you are, not the type of person that will impress others. Enjoy the present instead of worrying about what everyone else is doing. It shouldn't affect who you are and how you feel, regardless. The entire universe doesn't need to know everything about yourself.

Be the best, authentic version of yourself for yourself, and put down the phone once in a while. You might catch a glimpse of something you wouldn't have seen otherwise.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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10 Summer Vibes You Need To Bump To In The Car

The type of songs that will make you wish summer never had to end.

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There is truly nothing worse than being handed the AUX cord and not knowing what to do with it. In that moment, the spotlight is on you. You, the chosen one, has the opportunity to completely amp up the mood and get people in their feels.

For me, this is the moment in which I thrive the most and I am going to make sure that anyone that reads this article does to.

Now without further ado, here are 10 songs that will for sure boost your summer music cred.

1.  "Truth Hurts" by Lizzo 

If you haven't heard this one yet, I am sorry. This up and coming artist paved her way in the music world by introducing one of the most catchy girl anthems I have heard in a while. If you ever need a little reminder that you're a bad b*tch, listen to this song. The catchy beat and independent lyrics won't let you down.

2. "The London (feat. J Cole & Travis Scott)" by Young Thug 

If you want a song that pleases absolutely everyone, this is your go-to. Three of the biggest names of rap music in one song- it does not get much better. With a vibey beat and catchy chorus, you will be singing this song in no time.

3. "I Don't Care" by Ed Sheeran & Justin Bieber 

I'll tell you what, I do care about this song. After quite some time without music from Bieber or Sheeran, they have come back to bless us once again. Please don't go ghost on us again boys, we missed you.

4. "You Little Beauty" by Fisher 

Now this one is for my house people. Whether you like him for his insane personality or the electric beats he produces, Fisher is one of a kind. With his new single "You Little Beauty," you will be bopping your head and waving your hands the entire time.

5. "Electric Feel" by MGMT

An oldie, but a goodie. I don't know about you, but this song makes me wanna drive down the coast with my windows down, blasting the music. You can't beat alternative songs in the summer and this one is at the top of my playlist.

6. "GRoCERIES" by Chance the Rapper 

Chance. Is. Back. That's all I need to say.

7. "Whatever You Need" by Meek Mill and Nicki Minaj

Who doesn't love a good throwback to get them amped? You can't forget the Nicki/Meek era for many reasons, but one of the main ones being the unreal collaborations we got out of it. "Whatever You Need" will always be one to remember, so don't forget to keep it in your mind this summer.

8. "Jungle" by Tash Sultana

If you love the sound of guitar, this is the song for you. Being over five minutes, this song shows the musical talent within Tash Sultana. With guitar solos sprinkled so effortless throughout and the uniqueness of her voice, you are able to teleport into a musical phenomenon with this song.

9. "Baila Baila Baila (Remix)" by Ozuna, Daddy Yankee, & J Balvin

The song literally means "Dance Dance Dance," which automatically means it's going to be a crowd pleaser. And, come on, it's summer, you can't not listen to a little Spanish music.

10. "Undrunk" by Fletcher 

Representing an artist from my very own hometown, this one is constantly blasting in my car. Fletcher is the new artist to look out for, and she's making her way up the charts quickly with this banger. It is the perfect song to belt out after a night of bad decisions and calls to your ex.

I have now blessed you all with 10 songs that will make even the biggest of music snobs get in the mood. Use them wisely.

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