Social experiments are always a touchy subject. No one likes to participate in them, but social experiments serve an important purpose. They shine some light on things happening everyday, and makes us wonder why these things happen? A couple days ago I was scrolling through Facebook when I found an article of a woman who conducted a social experiment of saying yes to men she encountered. I was shocked at first, then I realized that I did something similar a while ago. My results were similar to hers, however, my social experiment was agreeing with compliments I received from guys around my age.
I had found that the majority of the guys that complimented me, would revoke the compliment just as fast as they gave it, when I agreed with them. Why? Why is showing interest in myself such a negative thing. Why am I not allowed to feel confident enough to say I like my eyes or butt. Am I as woman, supposed to be comfortable in my own skin and love myself ONLY if these ignorant young men say so. No, I'm not, so why are they acting like that.
With one guy in particular I became extremely upset at what he had to say about me. At first he messaged me saying I was very pretty, I agreed. To which he replied, "calm down, you're like a six at best." I at the time, moved on. It wasn't worth my time to continue with him (as part of the experiment anymore). I got what I needed. Around 20 minutes later, I got another message form him. This time saying, "fine whatever, I don't talk to slutty bitches that think they're better than everyone anyway." To which I replied, "how am I a slutty bitch?" He then simply said that it was because I wouldn't waste my time speaking with him. How pitiful is that?
Women are not on this Earth to talk to men 24/7 to be objectified and treated like we are nothing. I'm not here for you to tell me I'm pretty and feel like it's the only time that it's mattered. I'm not here for your pleasure. I'm here to live and to be treated like a human being. Nothing more and nothing less.
I didn't have to do this social experiment, but I wanted to. I wanted to see what it would be like. With most, they revoked the compliment with a "never mind" and left the conversation. Which didn't bother me at all. In fact to the majority, thank you for not harassing me, for others, thank you for giving me an insight to your thought process. However, I could not figure out why anyone feels the need to belittle someone for being comfortable in their bodies enough to love themselves. With this experiment I learned that this proves arguments all over the world that our society relishes in the fact that woman and girls have low self-esteems.
