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It's Time To Stop Slut-Shaming Yourself

Birds do it, bees do it, we all do it.

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It's Time To Stop Slut-Shaming Yourself

The reality of the situation is that most college-aged students are sexually active. But why are we still hush-hush about it? Maybe it roots back to high school sex education, with your gym teacher showing you a dramatic birth video and writing the word "abstinence" in big letters across the chalkboard. Possibly it's for fear of judgment from peers.

Regardless of the reason, it's time to accept sexual freedom and not feel guilty about a pleasure we all enjoy.

For the longest time, I would do my best to empower sexual freedom in other women in my life, but for some reason, I still felt guilt in my own sex life. I couldn't figure out why, logically I knew there was nothing wrong with accepting my sexuality, but I still found the word "slut" crossing my mind.

Eventually, I just took a look around. I live in a college town, filled with Tinder meet-ups, bar bathroom hookups, and everything else in between. Why the hell should I feel shameful? I should be enjoying my healthy, safe, consensual sex without shame.

Sex is both fun and good for you.

It's proven to be physically healthy and bring you and your partner closer. Not to mention, as a person who struggles with depression, I could use surges of dopamine and oxytocin (the chemicals in your brain that make you "happy") to better my mood.

In hopes not to sound too ridiculous, like you are going to find a source of freedom in a bathroom stall orgasm with Brad who you picked up in line waiting for a vodka cranberry (but, you might). I'm going to keep it simple—allow yourself to give in to your desires! Whether that's with kinky sex, soft sex with your serious partner, a few different Tinder guys a week, or the vibrator you hide from your roommate in your underwear drawer. Just enjoy it. Every day, women in their 20s and 30s are missing out on their sexual prime. Besides, guys can do it with no shame…and so can we, ladies.

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