The Six Types Of Love In Popular Culture
Politics and Activism

The Six Types Of Love In Popular Culture

How much do you know about love?

The Six Types Of Love In Popular Culture

Let's talk about love!

In the modern day, our society has constructed the concept of “love” as being mostly romantic. Intimacy and cheesy gestures make people feel happy and fulfilled. People idealize about the idea of love because of movies, media, and television as well as to assimilate into the mainstream culture, which is what we think is right. However, not everyone experiences the same love. Once upon a time, a long time ago, sociologist/psychologist John Alan Lee came up with the idea that there are many more styles of love rather than just one. In his book Colours of Love: An Exploration of the Ways of Loving (1973), Lee introduced the idea of other types of love, of which more information can be found here.

So, does our popular culture portray the other types of love besides romantic love, known as Eros love? Here are the six styles of underrated love that can be seen in movies and TV shows.

1. Eros (The Romantic Love)

The most popular love! It is when the love is passionate and all about chemistry. This is the love where physical beauty matters a lot. In other words, this love consists of hopeless romantics, butterflies in your stomach, intense feelings, and ‘love at first sight'. This is the new phase of a relationship, but beyond this phase, there might not be anything such as meaningful communication or long lasting commitment. After a while, the attraction can start to fade away. It is fun, easy, everything is happy, and that is why this type of love is the ideal fantasy hence proving its depiction throughout the mainstream media. However, Eros love can turn into something meaningful as time goes.

Some examples from popular culture are:

Jack and Rose from Titanic

Jack: This is crazy

Rose: I know it doesn’t make any sense..that's why I trust it.

Romeo from Romeo and Juliet

Romeo: Did my heart love till now? Forswear it, sight. For I never saw true beauty till this night.

Derek and Meredith from Grey’s Anatomy

2. Ludus (The Playful Love)

This is a type of love where everything is a game and where people have multiple partners, no commitment, and open relationships. They move on from one relationship to another quickly without any guilt. For Ludic lovers, everything is a challenge or a conquest.

Some of the characters that portray the Ludic style are:

Joey from Friends

Jamie from Friends with Benefits

3. Storge (The Friendship Love)

Storge is the affectionate love. It starts as a friendship after which the bond deepens and slowly turns into love. There is care in this relationship, and it doesn't have to be romantic. People have spent a long time with each other before turning their friendship into romantic love. Unlike Eros, it lacks passion. In this kind of love, the person would want their partner to be their best friends as well. Even if the romantic relationship ends, Storge lovers can go back to being friends. Eros love can turn into Storge.

Some examples are:

Hermione and Ron from the Harry Potter series

Joey and Rachel from Friends

4. Pragma (The Practical Love)

This is the practical love. People are logical when it comes to pragmatic love; they base their love on what they are getting out of the relationship. They have a checklist to find a person who might meet their requirements, and this relationship is typically seen in arranged marriages. This kind of relationship may begin on very little passion or emotional intimacy but that may change and evolve over time as the bond deepens.

An example is:

The Proposal

5. Mania (Obsessive Love)

Also known as madness in Greek. Jealousy, obsession, possessiveness all fall under mania. This love style is extreme and could end up being harmful or out of control.

Some examples are:

Fatal Attraction

The Boy Next Door

6. Agape (Altruistic Love)

This love is selfless and unconditional; it never demands anything in return and is full of compassion.

An example is:

The Pursuit of Happyness

Which one have you experienced or observed?

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.

119 People Reveal How The Pandemic Has Affected Their Love Lives, And Honestly... Relatable

"I haven't been able to get out of the 'talking phase' with anyone."

The reality is, there's no part of life the pandemic hasn't affected. Whether it's your work life, your home life, your social life, or your love life, coronavirus (COVID-19) is wreaking havoc on just about everything — not to mention people's health.

When it comes to romance, in particular, people are all handling things differently and there's no "right way" of making it through, regardless of your relationship status (single, taken, married, divorced, you name it). So, some of Swoon's creators sought out to hear from various individuals on how exactly their love lives have been affected since quarantine began.

Keep Reading... Show less

We have all been there. Mindlessly scrolling through social media and then we see that post. We see someone we once saw a future with creating it with someone else. However this time it was really different. A lot of times when we say we are happy for someone we don't really mean it.

Keep Reading... Show less
Photo by Samuel Branch on Unsplash

Affirmations affirm beliefs that we are in need of strengthening. They help up to focus on goals that we are striving for or on a powerful part of ourselves that we need a little reminder is within us.

They specifically focus on positive outcomes or belief systems that we're working to solidify, rather than solely focusing action on eradicating something "bad" or "wrong" from your life.

Keep Reading... Show less

About a year ago, I began my own fitness journey. Growing up, I had played soccer and kept busy, but after an injury cut my soccer career short I suddenly became very inactive. It took years of misfires before I finally found a new active passion for weight lifting. Getting started is never easy, and setting up for success is the best plan of action to assist anyone in your life who is thinking about starting their own journey. These are a few items you can gift for the fitness rookie in your life:

Keep Reading... Show less

Nordstrom's Biggest Sale Has The Most Legendary Deals On Luxury Beauty Brands We've Ever Seen

Counting down the days to the Chanel box set gracing my front door.

I oftentimes (excessively) use the excuse of my job as a writer to justify my excessive spending habits.

I needed the new Huda Beauty palette before anyone else in the name of journalistic integrity. It was my job to test out the new Francis Kurkdjian fragrance to make sure I could tell people whether or not it was truly worth the splurge (it was).

Keep Reading... Show less

Some people are so good at downplaying their sadness that even they don't realize how much they do it. When you ask them how they are they will always say that they are good, even when they aren't. They exhaust themselves by plastering an energetic and carefree persona in the spaces that you watch them in because at least to you they can control how they appear. They can pretend to be the happy person they want to be when everyone is telling them how funny and bubbly they are all the time.

Keep Reading... Show less

Mental health is not an easy endeavor. It's not a fad. It's not a bandwagon that you can hop on and off of whenever you want to. Your yearly dose of sadness is not depression. I'm not here to define what depression — or anxiety, or any other type of mental health issue looks like — but I will tell you what it's not.

Keep Reading... Show less
Photo by Sonnie Hiles on Unsplash

Whether it's dealing with a global pandemic or getting fired from your job, the fear of not knowing can become consuming if it isn't controlled. Below are some easy ways to take back control and establish a peace of mind.

Keep Reading... Show less

My South Asian Roots Inspire My Future Career As Both A Scientist And Journalist — Here's How

Being born to culturally diverse parents, I feel like I have the best of both worlds!

Erikka Chowdhury

To all of those who don't know me, I'm an American girl with South Asian parents who have carved their own niche as immigrants in the USA.

Keep Reading... Show less

The beaches are starting to open up. At least in Cape Cod, where my family and I were able to vacation this week. Near our house, we have a bit of a private beach, which is great.

Keep Reading... Show less

I sometimes look back at the days when I had anorexia and think to myself what would have happened if I had taken another bite? Nowadays, I spend days dreading over my figure and wondering if the old sundresses and outfits even fit. I tell myself that they do, but I feel like reality holds a different truth.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments