To The Sister I Never Knew I Needed, Thank You

To The Sister I Never Knew I Needed, Thank You

Growing up and becoming a young adult is hard, but sisters make it easier.


One of the things I am most grateful for in my life is my brother, he has become one of my favorite people and is growing up way too fast. Of course, I just have the one brother, but always wished I had a sister, the grass is always greener right? My friends who actually had sisters always told me it was awful, you don't want a sister, I'd rather have a brother.

All of that changed when I came to college. I was always on the fence about joining a sorority because of all the bad media surrounding the Greek community. I wanted to make new friends so I went for it, you're only in college once. It has honestly been one of the most rewarding experiences in my life and I am so grateful for every single opportunity I've had in my chapter.

But it didn't start off this way. When I first joined, I didn't think Greek life was something I would fit in to. I struggled with making friends at first because it's intimidating and you kind of just want to crawl under a rock. But that all changed when I met you.

At my first event for our chapter, I approached you because we had one of those weird connections where someone I knew, also knew you, so that meant we had to know each other. That five-second surge of confidence changed my entire world.

After weeks of hanging out and getting to know each other, we awkwardly told each other we wanted to be big and little. The night you became my big will always be one of my favorite sorority memories because now I was a part of the best family there is.

You were a constant support for me during my freshman year and made me feel like I always had someone to talk to, even when I felt like I didn't. We became so incredibly close and when our chapter hit a rough patch, we both thought about dropping. It was a hard decision because I didn't want to leave my friends or you. You made the choice very simple and if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't still be in this chapter.

At this point, you aren't just my big anymore, but one of my best friends in college. From expanding our family to the Fiesta dates to driving home at 7 am to go to your hair appointment with you at 10 am, to picking you up from the bars at 1 am because you're bored and watching you graduate and move on to bigger and better things.

I am the luckiest girl in the world to have a role model like you.

You make me want to be a better student, person, big, friend, sister, and daughter. I wouldn't be where I am today if it wasn't for you. You have shown me how to truly be the best that I can be and to start depending on me because no one is going to do it for you but you.

You are going to thrive in graduate school and I can't wait to come to visit you, wherever you end up. Congratulations on your graduation, KR, you are an unbelievable human being with more love and compassion in your heart than anyone I've ever met. I thank my lucky stars for you.

Love you always,


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To High School Seniors In Their Last Semester

Senior year moves pretty fast; if you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

Dammit, you made it. The final semester of your senior year. You’re at the top of the food chain of high school, and it feels so good. You’re probably praying this last semester flies by, that you get out of town as soon as possible.

At this point, you’re calling teachers by their first names, the entire staff knows you by name, and you’re walking around school standing tall, owning those hallways. You’re convinced you’re ready to leave and move on to the next chapter in your life.

You’ve already experienced your last football game, standing in the cold in the front row of the student section all season long, decked out in your school colors and cheering loud and proud. That is, until they lost, and you realized you will never have that experience again. Never again.

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You already had your last winter break. Preparing and celebrating the holidays with your family, ice skating and sledding with your best friends. Those quiet nights alone in your room watching Netflix, taking for granted your loved ones just a few rooms away. Never again.

If you’re an athlete, you may have already played in your last game or ran your last race. The crowd cheering, proudly wearing your school’s name across your chest, giving it your all. For some, it may be the end of your athletic career. Before you knew it, you were standing in an empty gym, staring up at the banners and thinking about the mark you left on your school, wondering where on earth the time went. Never again.

I’m telling you right now, you’re going to miss it all. Everything you’ve ever known. Those early mornings when you debate going to first hour because you really need those McDonald’s hash browns. The late nights driving home from practice, stopping for ice cream of course, ready for a late night of homework. Getting food on a whim with your friends. Endless fights with your siblings. Your favorite chips in the pantry. A fridge full of food. Coming home to and getting tackled by your dog. Driving around your hometown, passing the same sights you’ve seen every day for as long as you can remember. Hugs from your mom after a long day. Laughs with your dad. And that best friend of yours? You’re going to miss them more than anything. I’m telling you right now, nothing will ever be the same. Never again.

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Before you start packing your bags, slow down, take a deep breath, and look around. You’ve got it pretty good here. The end of your senior year can be the time of your life; it’s truly amazing. So go to the winter dance, go to Prom, spend Senior Skip Day with your classmates, go to every sporting event you can, while you still can. College is pretty great, but it’s the little things you’re gonna miss the most. Don’t take it for granted because soon, you’ll be standing in a packed gym in your cap and gown, wondering where the heck the time went. You’ve got a long, beautiful life ahead of you, full of joy but also full of challenges. You’re going to meet so many wonderful people, people who will treat you right and people who won’t.

So, take it all in. Be excited for the future and look forward to it, but be mindful of the present. You’ve got this.
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The Beginning of Second Semester Means The Start Of Rush: Here's What You Need To Know

Wondering if the sorority life is for you? Give it a shot!


As an incoming freshman during first semester, I was excited to go through sorority rush — even though I wasn't quite sure what it was all about. None of my close family members had been involved in a fraternity or sorority, so I wasn't too familiar with the process or anything like that. However, it seemed like many students at Miami were involved in Greek life, and it looked like something fun I would like to be involved in too. As the semester went on, I learned a little bit more about the actual process and signed up for rush along with my three other roommates.

Looking back now as a sophomore who went through rush, I know it can be a stressful and extremely busy time, especially with the start of classes happening as well. It can also be difficult to decide whether or not to participate. I will say that it is a pretty large time commitment during the two weeks of rounds. However, it can turn out to be worth it in the end. The best part about rush isn't necessarily getting into the "best" Greek organization, it's about finding people who you feel comfortable around and who enjoy your company.

After shopping for all of my rush outfits over winter break, I arrived back at school for the start of second semester and the start of rush. My three roommates and I all had a very different experience with rush. One of them went to the introduction to rush and afterward decided that it wasn't quite for her, so she didn't even end up going through the rounds at all. Another one of my roommates went through the first round (also known as "Welcome Round") and dropped from the rushing process after. That left me and my last roommate, Cami, to complete the rest of the rounds on our own.

As the second weekend approached, Cami and I were pretty nervous but having a good time getting to know a lot of different girls and what each sorority was about. We even ended up becoming really good friends with a couple girls who lived in our hall. When we finally finished getting to know all of the sororities and narrowing down our choices, we got to take a bid. Cami and I ended up in different sororities, having extremely different experiences, but still remain close friends a year later.

Although rush can seem extremely stressful and even scary, the best part about it is meeting new people. Through this process, I made friends with girls in my sorority as well as girls who are a part of Greek life in general. The whole point of going through rush is to meet people who you connect with, whether they're in the same "group" as you or not. Although I wasn't sure if being in a sorority was my "thing," I'm glad I tried it out because I've gained so many worthwhile experiences as well as the opportunity for new friendships.

My biggest advice when deciding to go through or going through rush is to not give up. It's easy to get caught up in the stereotypes of Greek life and worry about if you'll fit in or not, but in reality, there's a place for everyone. However, if in the end, you decide it's not your cup of tea, there's no judgment in walking away.

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