If you are anything like me, you are reading this completely single… and when I say single, I mean no husband, no boyfriend, no prospects. Straight single. But if you are anything like me, you are also loving this single, solitary life. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes I feel lost at 25 while many of my friends are in serious relationships or married and I’m third-wheeling. But, what really gets me is when someone says “You haven’t found a man to take care of you, yet?" Excuse me? No. This is where the word “settle” comes in. When I say settle, I don’t mean settling for the wrong man, I mean settling on not living out the dreams you have for your life because you feel pressure from society to get married, or even get a boyfriend for that matter.
The role of women in society has greatly evolved over the years. I have recently been reading “Upstairs at The White House: My Life with the First Ladies” written by J.B. West (totally recommend, by the way). Mr. West details the daily activities of the First Ladies from Eleanor Roosevelt to Pat Nixon. It was so interesting to me to see how the roles of each First Lady changed through the years. Each First Lady became more independent of her husband and ventured out on her own projects, proving that the job of the First Lady is more than just sitting still and looking pretty. Today, we even have a former First Lady running for President… if that thought doesn’t make you dream bigger then I don’t know what does! I say all of this to emphasize that in today’s society women don’t have to rely on men as they did many moons ago. I’m proud to live in a country where women have all of the opportunities that men have right at their fingertips and we are no longer inferior. So, with all of these opportunities, why are we so rushed and adamant to get in relationships or married? Why don’t we embrace these opportunities and make our dreams come true? I hear so many women say “If I could go back…” and I am determined to not be one of them one day. All of us single ladies should embrace this “loner life”, work hard, chase our dreams, have fun, & the rest will fall into place.
Now, you may think I am anti-relationships and that is not the case. If you find a man that is willing to do anything in order for you to achieve your dreams and is 100% supportive, by all means let him put a ring on it! But if your man doesn’t want to move if an opportunity arises for you, or just straight up is unsupportive of you continuing any of your dreams, LET HIM GO. If people say you are too “picky,” let them. You have a right to be. You don’t have to settle. I’m a firm believer in God’s timing and truly believe the longer you are single, the better the significant other God has waiting for you. Be patient. Embrace this single life and remember: You are too fabulous to settle.
