"SINGLE-SHAMING"
Start writing a post
Relationships

"SINGLE-SHAMING"

Please stop asking me why I don't have a boyfriend.

30
"SINGLE-SHAMING"

We live during a time where millennials are "boyfriend-shamed"'and "slut-shamed", but I have also noticed that young adults are getting "single-shamed", shamed for not having a significant other.

I'm sick of men asking me if I have a boyfriend, while I answer with a "no" the following question is always "why not?". Am I supposed to have a significant other? Do I absolutely need one? Is it impossible to live without one? NO.

I am a 20 year old student-athlete working a full time job, I don't even have time to think about myself. Successful relationships take a lot of time and effort and I just don't have enough to give to someone. College is a good time to figure out who you are as an individual which means working on yourself and being independent. If you are someone that loves having a SO and can balance life while balancing a relationship good for you, but it's not for everyone.

It's also completely impossible to start a relationship without trust so until I am 100% confident in the other person I can't devote all of my time to someone. I already have a minimum amount of trust in guys for the simple fact that so many guys with girlfriends act like they are single. How are you okay with pretending like you're single while you make an effort to talk to me all day and then going to sleep that night with your girlfriend? It boggles my mind.

Bottom line, stop asking me why I don't have a boyfriend like it's as necessary as food and water to survive. I'm content with going out partying with my best friends while not having to worry about my actions affecting someone else. I can make decisions for myself and travel around while not being tied down to anyone. Life for me is good this way so mind your damn business and I'll happily go on with my life as a young, single 20 year old

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

49755
college students waiting in a long line in the hallway
StableDiffusion

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less
a man and a woman sitting on the beach in front of the sunset

Whether you met your new love interest online, through mutual friends, or another way entirely, you'll definitely want to know what you're getting into. I mean, really, what's the point in entering a relationship with someone if you don't know whether or not you're compatible on a very basic level?

Consider these 21 questions to ask in the talking stage when getting to know that new guy or girl you just started talking to:

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

Challah vs. Easter Bread: A Delicious Dilemma

Is there really such a difference in Challah bread or Easter Bread?

31711
loaves of challah and easter bread stacked up aside each other, an abundance of food in baskets
StableDiffusion

Ever since I could remember, it was a treat to receive Easter Bread made by my grandmother. We would only have it once a year and the wait was excruciating. Now that my grandmother has gotten older, she has stopped baking a lot of her recipes that require a lot of hand usage--her traditional Italian baking means no machines. So for the past few years, I have missed enjoying my Easter Bread.

Keep Reading...Show less
Adulting

Unlocking Lake People's Secrets: 15 Must-Knows!

There's no other place you'd rather be in the summer.

955263
Group of joyful friends sitting in a boat
Haley Harvey

The people that spend their summers at the lake are a unique group of people.

Whether you grew up going to the lake, have only recently started going, or have only been once or twice, you know it takes a certain kind of person to be a lake person. To the long-time lake people, the lake holds a special place in your heart, no matter how dirty the water may look.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Top 10 Reasons My School Rocks!

Why I Chose a Small School Over a Big University.

180453
man in black long sleeve shirt and black pants walking on white concrete pathway

I was asked so many times why I wanted to go to a small school when a big university is so much better. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure a big university is great but I absolutely love going to a small school. I know that I miss out on big sporting events and having people actually know where it is. I can't even count how many times I've been asked where it is and I know they won't know so I just say "somewhere in the middle of Wisconsin." But, I get to know most people at my school and I know my professors very well. Not to mention, being able to walk to the other side of campus in 5 minutes at a casual walking pace. I am so happy I made the decision to go to school where I did. I love my school and these are just a few reasons why.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments