"SINGLE-SHAMING"

We live during a time where millennials are "boyfriend-shamed"'and "slut-shamed", but I have also noticed that young adults are getting "single-shamed", shamed for not having a significant other.

I'm sick of men asking me if I have a boyfriend, while I answer with a "no" the following question is always "why not?". Am I supposed to have a significant other? Do I absolutely need one? Is it impossible to live without one? NO.

I am a 20 year old student-athlete working a full time job, I don't even have time to think about myself. Successful relationships take a lot of time and effort and I just don't have enough to give to someone. College is a good time to figure out who you are as an individual which means working on yourself and being independent. If you are someone that loves having a SO and can balance life while balancing a relationship good for you, but it's not for everyone.

It's also completely impossible to start a relationship without trust so until I am 100% confident in the other person I can't devote all of my time to someone. I already have a minimum amount of trust in guys for the simple fact that so many guys with girlfriends act like they are single. How are you okay with pretending like you're single while you make an effort to talk to me all day and then going to sleep that night with your girlfriend? It boggles my mind.

Bottom line, stop asking me why I don't have a boyfriend like it's as necessary as food and water to survive. I'm content with going out partying with my best friends while not having to worry about my actions affecting someone else. I can make decisions for myself and travel around while not being tied down to anyone. Life for me is good this way so mind your damn business and I'll happily go on with my life as a young, single 20 year old