Don't Ruin Valentine's Day For Other Couples

Just Because You Are Running Solo For Valentine's Day, Doesn't Mean You Can Ruin The Day For Couples

Other people actually want to enjoy the day.

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Around this time of year, there is a certain "holiday" - If you call it that - that a lot of individuals in relationships like to celebrate. Yes, Valentine's Day is quickly approaching and while those in relationships are preparing gifts and dates, others who are single are well, . . . Not doing that.

In fact, most single individuals dread the weeks leading up to February 14th. Why? Simply because they don't have a significant other to spend Valentine's Day with. So, instead of preparing gifts and dates, they are preparing for "anti-Valentine's Day" or "Galentine's Day", which are both events where they spend the day with close friends (or total strangers) around them to avoid being lonely. Most of the time, these events are tied together with talking down on Valentine's Day and those who celebrate it.

Now, what I don't understand is why. What is the point of going around and saying "I hate Valentine's Day" or "Valentine's Day is stupid"? What is the point of rolling your eyes or giving dirty looks to couples spending the day together? I don't understand why single people have to be so condescending towards those in relationships. Whether you want to be single or not, there is no need to be crabby towards others.

What I have also come to notice is the fact that people only become rude like this during Valentine's Day but for the rest of the year, these same people are fine towards couples. Is it just the name of Valentine's Day that gets people upset? The fact that there is a dedicated "holiday" to it? It is just a regular day, with the same, regular people except it now has a label and now people want to roll their eyes? It just doesn't make sense.

I don't understand why it is so hard for people to let couples enjoy their Valentine's Day with each other. I don't understand the need for an anti-Valentine's Day and that is because there really is not a need for one. Anti-Valentine's Day should not have needed to be created but because of those single people out there who are crabby, and need the attention and validation on this one specific day, it was.

Now, let me take a minute to clarify something. If you are a single person reading this saying "well, I don't do any of this" or "I may be single but I love Valentine's Day" then great! This article is not directed towards you. This article is directed towards those who think their single status is superior to others' relationship status. To those people, maybe you should take the day and show some love to yourself.

Valentine's Day was not created to be celebrated how it is now - just like most holidays. It was created in honor of Saint Valentine. There are many legends about Saint Valentine but a popular one is:

One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret.

Valentine knew the importance of love and wouldn't let it be outlawed, so now people take this day to celebrate their love for one another. This day is not meant to spite the single people, it is meant to celebrate history and love. Valentine's Day is not just a useless day, it is a day with a historical background, and it is a day that people should let be celebrated without ruining it for others.

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23 People Describe "Love" In One Word

The limit does not exist.
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With Valentine's Day around the corner, we all know that "love" is in the air and cupid is getting ready to point his arrows.

Each year when this time comes around, a little bit after the holidays we begin to see the red, heart-shaped boxes of chocolate fill the aisles of grocery stores, along with giant cards and fluffy teddy bears. It reminds us of roses and love and for those Pisces people like myself, birthdays. But even though we all associate one singular word with a holiday, we all have our own unique meaning and interpretation of it.

Love comes in all shapes and sizes and variations. For such a strong word, it has endless meanings. For one universal understanding of a feeling, We all interpret it differently. We feel it in our own way and express it differently.

Despite the differences when it comes to the world "love" we all share one thing--the limitlessness. Love is limitless. We have the power to love unconditionally. And endlessly. The ability to love anyone or anything we want? We have it.

That is why when someone asked me to "Describe love in one word" and I replied, "limitless," I was curious as to how others would respond because there is simply no limit to the answer.

Hearing the responses of these wonderful people I have asked to describe "love" with one word proved to me that not only do we all experience it differently, but there are endless ways to describe it.

"Home (because you feel like you belong there)" - Helen, 21

"Warm" - Sarah, 19

"Happiness" - Krista, 21"

"Unconditional" - Brianna, 21

"Passion" - John, 20

"Everlasting" - Mikayla, 20

"Family" - Alfie, 20

"Laughing" - Sofia, 20

"Beautiful" - Dee, 20

"Passion" - Gina, 20

"Worth waiting for" - Sonja, 26

"Loyalty" - Miranda 19

"Special" - Jake A, 19

"Timeless" - Rob, 21

"Happiness" - Emily, 21

"Mysterious" - Jake C, 21

"Appreciation" - Jess R, 21

"Evolving" - Ryan, 20

"Magical" - Corey, 20

"Commitment" - Brianna P, 21

"Wild" - Allegra, 28

"Powerful" - Jess, 20

"Pain" - Kevin, 22

"Putting someone's needs and happiness before your own" - Courtney, 20

"Simple" - Amanda, 21

"Overcoming" - Jess B, 20

"Passionate" - Steph, 20

"Selfless" - Kyra, 20

This Valentine's Day, no matter if you are single, taken, or somewhere in the middle, remember that love has no limit. No matter the person you give it to or how much love you give, there is no limit. Even on the difficult days, love with all your heart because we all know the world could use a little more love.

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Whether Your Perpetually Single Or Married AF, Here Are 5 Easy Things To Do This Valentine's Day

Make the perfect day even more special.

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The day that is full of love, smiles, and red faces. Valentine's Day! This is such a beautiful day because there are many people showcasing their love for one another, or people embracing to tell their biggest secret to someone (their crush). This day is one of my favorite holidays and I love how people make others feel especially special on this day. There are many things to do on Valentine's Day, but if you're single or in a relationship, I have the perfect things to do.

1. The Stars.

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This may seem corny, but taking the time to sit outside at 7 p.m. to look at the stars is lovely. Having that time to communicate with your significant other is relaxing and peaceful. This is a great way to enjoy each other's company and to cherish a moment of relaxation.

2. Yum, Num, Yum.

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Of course, I was going to tell you to go out to eat. Taking that time to eat dinner with your significant other is important. You can have that moment in time to just express why you love that person and you can do it over a great dinner. If you're not feeling anything fancy, choose a different type of scenery. Instead of prime ribs and asparagus, go get some good 'ole fashioned wings, ribs or a juicy burger. Step outside of the box.

3. Game Night.

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Having a game night with your significant other is not traditional at all, that's why you should do it. Monopoly, Chess, Checkers, Dance Dance Revolution. These are all great games to play with your significant other. Having that time to laugh and relieve stress with one another can really help you mentally. It may seem childish, but it is something different and is not a part of the status quo.

4. If you're single,  mingle.

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For all my single souls, it's okay not being in a relationship on Valentine's Day. There're still things for you to do. You can go out with your other single friends an enjoy their company. You can even try speed dating. Movie night by yourself isn't too bad neither, I've done it before and it is quite peaceful. Treating your mom, dad or siblings is not ideal, but it will make their day. Valentine's Day can be spent with anyone, not just someone you have "feelings" for.

5. MOVIES!

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There will probably be love movie marathons playing on TV the entire week of Valentine's Day. Enjoy a "chick flick" with your girls or guys. I know it may seem lame, but movie night is the best type of night to spend with family & friends. One of my favorite movies is Valentine's Day. It's such an awesome movie that focuses on a range of people and their Valentine's Day.

Valentine's Day is the time to show everyone you care for that you love them. Whether you show them in small gestures or big gestures. You can give people thank you cards or send them a basket of edible arrangement. This is the day of love. Let this be the day that you embrace love, in every aspect that you can embrace it in.

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