Many have shared with me their experience of meeting their future spouse in college, falling in love and getting married after college. With a smile, words of encouragement flow out of their mouths, telling me that there is a chance for me to be swept off my feet in college. I'm pretty sure we've all heard it, maybe differently each time, but we did hear it at least once in our lives. I would be lying if I said I only heard this once, but these particular words followed me all throughout my high school years, reminding me of the possibility of meeting someone in college.

I am now in college and am instead learning to be content with being single.

If you are struggling with idolizing relationships, there is something you need to do. Take a step back and evaluate your life; furthermore, observe how you are emotionally and spiritually. Please don't judge me. I'm not saying that I am "perfect" because trials do come, trials where I question why everyone else is in a relationship and I'm not (ask the people closest to me and they will be able to share the rants I've had).

To be honest, before I stepped foot into my university, my imagination created a version of myself that could withstand the emotional baggage that comes with liking a boy--God proved me wrong. My feet felt stuck. I didn't know how to be strong when relationships were blossoming all around me. I knew what my goal was, which was not to be in a relationship until after college, yet the goal was far-fetched, hopeless and out of my reach to achieve. My perspective on relationships became questionable--then it hit me (like a light bulb effect) relationships do not just include romantic relationships, but friendships as well. Friendships without focusing on the thought of pursuing a commitment.

So my journey was rerouted. How? Well, by not idolizing the possibility of being in a relationship and instead steering my focus on my relationship with God and others.

Take a step back and watch the pieces all fall together. Maybe God had a piece of the puzzle that was missing in my perspective, where God was the molder and I was his masterpiece.

Would it be hard to accept the truth that God knows what we need the moment we need it? Perhaps it's not the time to be involved in a commitment, but just the time to let God mold you. Giving our thoughts and convictions time to mature in what we believe in.

I'll make this simple to understand: don't idolize your desire of dating someone. God can make it clear and tell you when you're not ready for it.