Undoubtedly, my last articles have been mostly advice and about navigating oneself. Well, here's me continuing that trend and writing to reassure you of a few things - because it's always quite nice to stumble upon words that you can deeply relate to.

This one is about being single - for those, like me, who just can't seem to get comfortable with their solitary. I've been single for about four years now and I've lead myself to believe that this is such a bad thing, and that being alone now really means being alone forever. But what I had failed to see, up until now, is that it means quite the opposite.

I've come to the realization that the more time I spend alone and learn about what sets me apart from everyone else, the more I'll strive to maintain a relationship when I find myself in one.

I know at the moment it feels like you will never even find yourself in any relationship because you just can't imagine it. You can't imagine someone being by your side at a bar, wanting your undivided attention, or someone suddenly having perfect attendance at school because they don't want to miss a chance to speak to you. Well that's the whole point, it's supposed to take you by surprise - you just aren't supposed to imagine it. Did you imagine yourself reading this article right now, when your elementary teacher asked how you saw yourself in ten years? Of course not! No one can predict the future, so stop trying to do so by looking at every stranger on the street wondering if they're the "one." And please don't go and create an entire life with someone in your head before you even know that your feelings are being reciprocated.

It will only lead you to lose that last bit of hope you have in finding love. Trust me, been there... done that... no luck.

I really don't know what's up with people looking for relationships. I mean, did you ever hear that couple that's been dating for two years now, say "well... it all started when I was desperately looking for someone to love and yeah, they smelled my desperateness from ten miles away and offered to take me to dinner." No! Typically, it starts off with a "I wasn't looking for anything serious" or "I didn't even want to go out that night."

But hey, I'm not saying that something is going to switch off within you and you're going to suddenly be okay with sitting back, perfectly content with being single, after these few words.

No, you're going to keep searching and wanting something, anything, with anyone who will speak to you.

I just want my advice to remind you that being single benefits you and even brings you closer to finding the right person to spend a portion of your life with. It's like the Backwards Law. The Backwards Law is the law of nature discovered by Alan Watts, renowned philosopher. It states that sometimes, the harder you try to do something, the less likely it is that you will succeed at it. Think about that, not just with relationships, think about it when it comes to your desire to succeed at anything.

If you would like to read more on the Backwards Law and advice on success, I highly recommend reading "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck" by Mark Manson. Seriously genius!