I appreciate time to myself. I think everyone does. There's only so much interaction I can have with people before I need to recharge myself. I've "joked" multiple times this semester at college with my friends on how all I wanted to do was hibernate for a day or two... or three... or four. Nothing really against people themselves, but when I feel overwhelmed and stressed, I need some time to myself so that I can focus on myself without getting distracted.
There has always been that saying, "Silence is golden." People will use it many different situations, but it usually implies that it would be better for someone to be silent than to keep talking and causing a distraction in some way.
For me personally, silence became my only source of gold for a while. I thought that was what people really wanted.
You see, I'm a slight people pleaser... Sort of. I don't care about what others think of me or how I act. However, while I don't care about what others think, (for the most part), I do care how they feel. Feelings matter a lot more to me than thoughts. Thoughts are misleading. People think lies about themselves and lies about others. Feelings though are something completely different. Feelings are raw. They're real.
So why am I saying all of this?
Too often I can be afraid of telling someone what I think/feel. I think everyone does sometimes. Sure it might be easier to not confront a certain person. It might be easier to just keep your feelings about a person to yourself.
Maybe you see someone doing a good thing and think to yourself, "That was nice of them. They're a good person." But you might not tell them for whatever reason. I myself have a habit of not saying things to people when I should.
My point is this: What would happen if people just said how they felt? People might not always like how people feel, but there would be no false friendships and no false personalities. People would feel good about themselves knowing how someone feels about them. People would stand up for each other when they feel someone is being wronged.
How freeing would that feel to just be real with each other?
I leave you with that thought.
God bless!
