If you're familiar with the term "third culture kid", chances are, you probably are one. In case you are unfamiliar with it, as can be defined as in the following way: Adults whom travel and live abroad will end up broadening their perspectives, however, children raised in this atmosphere will grow up imbibing a blend of cultures. It is these kids that are referred to as third culture, or trans-cultural kids (TCKs). Spending a significant part of one's developmental years in a culture that is different than his or her parent's would have grown up in has a sense of loyalty to both cultures. They often become "culture-blended" and view societal issues through a different lens.
I've also heard an alternate definition: The place you're born (1), is different than the place you grew up (2), and is different than the place you live now (3), making you a third-culture kid.
If this is sounding a lot like your childhood, then here is a list of five signs you're a TCK:
1. You have a love-hate relationship with the question "Where are you from?"
It's a common stereotype that TCK's abhor this question because it's not a simple one-word answer. For example, if I had to talk about myself I would say the following:
I was born in India, and my parents are Indian. However, I grew up in Singapore, except for two years that I lived in the US. Singapore was where I spent the majority of my life before moving to Chicago, five years ago.
Compared to another's classmate's answer that may simply be "Naperville," it seems like quite the saga, but the reason all those places are worth mentioning is that they've made me into the person I am, through the values, cultures, and experiences.
2. Your Facebook friends list confuses people because it has people currently residing all over the world.
*Obligatory TCK's that will like and share this article get it*
Even though your friends and you have lived together or gone to school in the same country, they've eventually moved back home, or gone on to continue their adventures abroad. When I list old friends from high school, I normally follow it up by where they are now. This normally includes a myriad of European or Asian countries or various states within America. At first, this confuses people and they ask "how do you know someone in Italy/the UK/etc?" But the answer is simple: high school.
3. This means, your relationship with them basically exists online...and when you do see them, it can get a bit intense.
Annnd... when you finally see them in person, it's like you haven't missed anything other than the intense burst of energy it finally feels to be #reunited.
4. You get nervous whenever a form needs you to enter a "permanent address."
I had a friend come visit me when she was studying abroad in France, as a part of the college she was enrolled in the UK, despite being from Singapore. That can get confusing, and you definitely don't want to fill out immigration forms wrong.
Tip: When in doubt, just put where ever your parents live.
5. You can write an entire dissertation on how "home" isn't a place, it's the people in it.
Maybe, like me, you have three homes, the three places that make you a TCK. Or maybe you spent your life moving around and have many homes. At the end of the day, it's the people who make the place what it is, and that's what your home means to you.