8 Signs You Grew Up in a Conservative Household

8 Signs You Grew Up in a Conservative Household

The good ole days.
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Children who grow up in conservative households are taught traditional rules and guidelines from a very young age. Conservative parents have a specific way of doing things, and conservative kids feel the result.

1. You weren't allowed date.


I remember feeling so left out in middle school and high school for not dating anyone. I remember being the girl that wasn't allowed to date.

Today, I really appreciate that I've had only a few relationships. In middle school and high school, those “relationships” were hardly dating, even if I didn't realize it until now.

2. As soon as you could walk, you could work.


Yep, my conservative household found this very important and so did I. I was hired for my first job before I even turned 16, and by the time I was 18 I had at least 4 jobs.

3. At some point, all of your family parties have turned into political debates.

When my family would get together, on holidays or events, somehow politics was always brought up. I didn't understand it when I was younger, but now I appreciate being able to chime in my opinions with the rest of my family, even if some don't agree.

4. You definitely got spanked.

Yes, I said it.

Spanking is ok!

Today when people look at kids being spanked, it's perceived as cruel or abusive. I got spanked here and there when I broke the rules. Spanking is ok! It taught me to respect authority, my parents, and adults. If I wasn't spanked as a child, I wouldn't be as disciplined as I am today.

5. You always went to church.

If my family and me didn't go to church every Sunday, we went to church during the week. My parents made sure that my siblings and I had a religious education. Once a week on a week night, my mom would take us to church for class where we learned about our religion and the Bible. While we were in religious education classes, my mom helped out at the church.

6. Only 1 piercing was allowed per ear.

All of my friends were getting their nose pierced and had triple piercings on each ear. I remember wanting my nose pierced so bad I did it myself! Now, I'm happy my parents never let me, because I don't have tons of piercings I need to take out before going to work.

7. You couldn't cuss.


This may sound pretty self-explanatory but my parents were the kind of parents who though everything was a cuss word. When I was young, I wasn't allowed to say “that sucks” because "sucks" was a swear word.

8. Family first.

You guys are always together. While all your friends went to the movies, you went to visit your grandma. And on holidays, when all your friends got together for a New Years Eve party, you stayed home with your family. Spending time with your family was always more important than spending time with your friends or by yourself.


I wouldn't change a thing about my conservative upbringing!

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A Letter To My Best Friend On Valentine's Day

Because you are my ultimate Valentine.
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To my beautiful best friend,

Warning: This letter is about to get extremely cheesy. I am talking four cheese lasagna cheesy. But no one deserves a love letter like this more than you do.

This Valentine’s Day, I want to express my love for you. On this wondrous occasion with which most people express their love to their significant other, I want to tell you, my best friend, how much I cherish our friendship.

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You are the ultimate love of my life. Boys have come and gone but you remain a constant; for that I am grateful. You have been there for me when my family could not be; for that I am grateful. You have been my backbone, my rock, and all those other clichés people use to describe the people they care about, and yet you have been so much more than that as well; for that I am grateful.

All my love this Valentine’s Day goes out to you, my friend, because you do not receive it enough. You have picked me up out of the dirt, brushed me off, and kissed my wounds more times than I can count, and I will never be able to thank you enough for that, but I am sure am going to try.

Thank you for the midnight cries. Thank you for the midnight laughs. Thank you for ordering way too much food with me and still just eating it all. Thank you for the advice, both solicited and unsolicited. Thank you for telling me what I need to hear, even when it isn’t what I want to hear. Thank you for the silly pictures. Thank you for the stupid inside jokes. Thank you for making bad decisions with me. Thank you for laughing with me and laughing at me. Thank you for the endless memories.

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More than anything, I want you to know that I love you. I love you. You are the family I get to choose, the one I go to when I have nowhere else to turn. You are the one I know I can always run to, whether we saw each other yesterday or haven’t seen each other in a year. You have played a part in molding who I am as a person, and I am so grateful for having such an amazing person affecting my life in such a positive way.

With all the love in my heart,

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Blood Doesn't Determine Family

Blended families are just as much of a family as a traditional one.

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If you look above, you can see that have a very large family on my mother's side. Between my grandparents, aunts and uncle, cousins and my own immediate family, we're at thirty-three members and counting. All branches of our family tree have busy lives, so we don't get to see each other as much as often as we would hope to. Christmas is the one time a year where we all finally get together for the evening. If you sat in on our holiday party, you may think that we have a couple screws loose, but there is no doubt that you would be able to feel the love radiating from room to room.

If you look at the picture I chose for my header, you can see all of the cousins gathered for our yearly picture. Dysfunctional, of course, but you can tell that love is there. Would it surprise you that out of our entire huge family, less than half of us are blood-related?

I come from a blended family, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Blood does not determine family to us. Love does.

Divorce can be a messy thing, especially when children are involved. Both my aunt and uncle had remarried into relationships that already had children. For the most part, none of us can really ever remember a time when we weren't considered family. We don't ever look at each other as not being related. We never will. Family to us is the love and support that is shared unconditionally between us.

As I said, you would never be able to tell we weren't blood-related unless I told you. Not only do we all look similar to one another (which again is odd, because if the marriages had never taken place, we would just have a ton of doppelgangers running around), but the love and passion that we radiate is unmistakable that we have a bond that will never be broken, let alone determined by biology.

Blended families tend to get a bad rap sometimes from some of the horror stories that can come from second marriages. Not only that, but some people still are stuck in the idea that the only socially acceptable type of family is one where the lineage is clear and concise. Although I can see where these people come from, I don't believe that because there is a lack of shared genetics between all of us, our love is any less strong.

Family is those who will answer a call or text late at night because you need someone to talk to. They're the ones that you end up staying at their house and talking for hours when you meant to make a quick trip in. They are there for you no matter the situation and always believe in you one hundred percent.

Traditional families have a lot of love too, undoubtedly. But please, do not tell me that my family is any less of a family of a family because of its makeup. We have just as much love between us as families with the same bloodline. Blood does not determine the amount of love and affection between all of us. It never will. We will love each other as much as a traditional family. We never look at each other as a mixed family, so please stop treating us as such.

I've said it so many times, but I'll remind you once more. Blood does not determine family, love does-- and I love my family more than life itself.

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