8 Signs You Grew Up in a Conservative Household

8 Signs You Grew Up in a Conservative Household

The good ole days.
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Children who grow up in conservative households are taught traditional rules and guidelines from a very young age. Conservative parents have a specific way of doing things, and conservative kids feel the result.

1. You weren't allowed date.


I remember feeling so left out in middle school and high school for not dating anyone. I remember being the girl that wasn't allowed to date.

Today, I really appreciate that I've had only a few relationships. In middle school and high school, those “relationships” were hardly dating, even if I didn't realize it until now.

2. As soon as you could walk, you could work.


Yep, my conservative household found this very important and so did I. I was hired for my first job before I even turned 16, and by the time I was 18 I had at least 4 jobs.

3. At some point, all of your family parties have turned into political debates.

When my family would get together, on holidays or events, somehow politics was always brought up. I didn't understand it when I was younger, but now I appreciate being able to chime in my opinions with the rest of my family, even if some don't agree.

4. You definitely got spanked.

Yes, I said it.

Spanking is ok!

Today when people look at kids being spanked, it's perceived as cruel or abusive. I got spanked here and there when I broke the rules. Spanking is ok! It taught me to respect authority, my parents, and adults. If I wasn't spanked as a child, I wouldn't be as disciplined as I am today.

5. You always went to church.

If my family and me didn't go to church every Sunday, we went to church during the week. My parents made sure that my siblings and I had a religious education. Once a week on a week night, my mom would take us to church for class where we learned about our religion and the Bible. While we were in religious education classes, my mom helped out at the church.

6. Only 1 piercing was allowed per ear.

All of my friends were getting their nose pierced and had triple piercings on each ear. I remember wanting my nose pierced so bad I did it myself! Now, I'm happy my parents never let me, because I don't have tons of piercings I need to take out before going to work.

7. You couldn't cuss.


This may sound pretty self-explanatory but my parents were the kind of parents who though everything was a cuss word. When I was young, I wasn't allowed to say “that sucks” because "sucks" was a swear word.

8. Family first.

You guys are always together. While all your friends went to the movies, you went to visit your grandma. And on holidays, when all your friends got together for a New Years Eve party, you stayed home with your family. Spending time with your family was always more important than spending time with your friends or by yourself.


I wouldn't change a thing about my conservative upbringing!

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.
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Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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To The Best Friend Every Girl Should Be Blessed Enough To Have

You definitely deserve all the love.

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I have not written this letter, but it has been on my list of "to write" for forever. She keeps asking when I will write one about her and every time I tell her, soon.

Well here it is. The truth on why it took so long? No words seem to do everything justice. No matter how I put them or how I want them to sound, the page always makes them look weird and they always sound lame.

But finally, here it is. Best friend, this one is for you.

First and foremost I will start with a holy cow. We have been best friends for only a short time because who knew your "in school friend" from all those math classes would actually turn into this? We put off hanging out outside of school for years, and finally, after suffering through all that algebra we decided enough was enough.

I wish we had sooner.

I wish I had gotten more time with you before we both moved away to college - but ill take whatever time I get with you because well… you're incredible.

Thank you.

Thank you for finally agreeing to hang out with me.

Thank you for listening to every rant ever - whether it was a paragraph long text, a 2 hour FaceTime call or an hour-long car ride.

Thank you for ordering planners with me and spending nights decorating them with me (we are such losers).

Thank you for letting me become a part of your family.

Thank you for going to Friendly's, IHOP and Target at the most ungodly hours.

Thank you for encouraging me in everything I do, and stopping me from making bad decisions.

Thank you for telling me the truth, despite if it hurt me or not, I know now you will never lie about your feelings towards someone (LOL).

Basically, thank you for everything you have done for me. You have made me a better person and you encourage me to be my best self every single day.

Moving on I want to make it clear how incredibly proud of you I am. I love getting texts from you about your love for your classes, and how you want to be president of this club and president of that. How you help out kids, and how you host events. I love hearing about your major and the classes you are so incredibly excited to take. Watching you be so passionate about what you are doing and becoming makes me want to feel the same way in everything I do.

I hope someday my kids are your students because, in your hands, I know they can change the world.

Last but not least, I love you. And you're stuck with me.

Love,

Your forever number one fan

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