5 Signs That Your Relationship Or Situationship Is TOXIC
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5 Signs That Your Relationship Or Situationship Is TOXIC

You deserve better.

5 Signs That Your Relationship Or Situationship Is TOXIC

5 signs you need to let your current situation go.

Your partner is inconsistent.


The person who cares for you the most, is going to want to be in communication with you throughout the day. They should NOT be hot and cold, where every other day you are left wondering if they are still interested in you or not. If they are inconsistent with you, then basically they don't see you as a priority. You don't hold much importance in their life, and they probably have other options that they are giving more of their energy to. Let them go!

Your partner can never apologize for hurting your feelings.


Every time you try to bring up something that bothers you, it either turns into a huge fight, or they put the blame on you. Some phrases that might be familiar to you would include: "it's not that deep" "you're overreacting" "it's just a joke, chill" or my personal favorite "I never said/did that". If they can't even acknowledge that they have hurt your feelings, and take responsibility for it, you gotta bounce. Somebody who can never take your feelings into account, does not care about hurting your feelings in the first place. Even if they don't agree with you being upset over it, they still should not want you to be upset, and therefore apologize.

They keep doing things that you have previously made clear upset you.


"I don't like when you do this, it hurts my feelings." You would think that if you said that to your partner they would simply not do that thing right? Well if you're in a toxic situation, that is not the case. Your partner most likely will keep doing these little things, and even if you think that they are just small things, it will only get worse. They simply just don't care about what bothers you. If your partner can't even stop doing simple things that hurt you, what do you think would happen with something even bigger? If they already disregard what makes you upset, chances are they will keep doing it, and it will only get worse. Take those little things and make them red flags for your next partner after you leave this tool.

They never lift you up or compliment you.


This bit might sound a little conceited, but compliments are essential for a relationship of any sorts. You should be spending your time with somebody who makes you feel good about yourself, who brings you up, and who wants YOU to love yourself. When you take this away, you also get rid of reassurance which is something you need from a relationship. You deserve to know that the person you're with appreciates you, and feel secure in how they feel about you. If they aren't lifting you up, they're simply only bringing you down. Take your energy, use it to uplift yourself, and get out of there.

They can't commit to you.


This is obviously the biggest red flag of them all. If somebody wants you, they won't want anybody else to have the chance to be with you. They won't let you walk away easily, and will want you to be their partner officially. After about a month or so, you know what you want out of a situation with somebody. It doesn't take that much time to figure that out. If you are going on months in the "talking stage" and you still aren't cuffed, you're single. There is no reason for this person to not be able to commit to you, and if you meant anything to them they wouldn't want to risk losing you. Yes there are certain circumstances where people emotionally can't commit, but then they should not be dating in the first place. Realize what you are worth, and walk away.

You deserve to be in a relationship that is filled with love and appreciation,. Stop settling for less than what you deserve.

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